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picking up women at the gym

I see a bunch of cute woman at the gym but just dont know how to approach them, I smile at them and we make eye contact and it ends there. How do I make my first move whats something I can bring up in a discussion to catch their attention, I would love a woman's point of view

Mon. Jun 18, 1:45pm

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I say go for it! There's so much fear of rejection with BOTH sexes. You'll never know if she's the one until you ask!

Keep in mind she's probably a little uncomfortable because you're talking to her while working out, i.e. no make up or running mascara, bad hair, BO, sweat. But if she still looks like heaven anyway, you should make your destiny....I'd love for a man to approach me at the gym, means they've seen me at my low point and getting naked wouldn't be as big of deal later on.

Monday, June 18, 2007, 1:48 PM

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Picking up women at the gym is a bad idea in my mind. (I am a guy)- women I think want to be left alone to do their thing. I could be wrong. The best way to meet women is through friends. Get out there and make friends, and the women will follow.

Monday, June 18, 2007, 2:03 PM

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Pick up women at the gym is a bad idea- this is coming from a women!

I don't go to the gym to workout and look cute. I go to the gym for totally selfish reason... for me me me!

I have been hit on a few times at the gym and completely blew the guys off, sad thing is had they apprached me somewhere else like the store, coffee shop, baseball game I would have taken them up on the date offer.

Monday, June 18, 2007, 2:05 PM

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how about asking one of the women how they would like to be approached? it's a nice, honest ice-breaker...

Monday, June 18, 2007, 2:17 PM

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I've never had anyone try to pick me up at the gym (I'm female.) but definitely wouldn't mind. My gym has a smoothie bar -- if yours does too, you could always make a campy kind of bar joke of the "may I buy you a drink after your workout?" variety. Or, "Would you join me for a protein and vitamin cocktail?" I could definitely imagine getting a laugh out of that, and would probably say yes.

Monday, June 18, 2007, 2:19 PM

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As a Woman ...

It depends on the woman. If you are actually making eye contact with them and there seems to be a glint, go for it - I really like 2:19's line, however .........
If you are not getting any real response from the eye contact (like you would in a bar for example) don't do it.
I am probably perceived to be the snobbiest woman at my gym, because I refuse to make eye contact with anyone, therfore people pretty much know to leave me alone which is what I want from my gym experience,
If you get a bit of the warm and fuzzy - try

Monday, June 18, 2007, 2:32 PM

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I personally wouldn't enjoy just straight out being "hit-on" while working out. However, I would be interested and flattered if a man I saw at the gym frequently started smiling at me, saying hi, and eventually working up to general conversation. Once you've established a comfort level and familiarity with me (not talking about being good buddies or anything, just once I no longer see you as a creep looking to pick up someone-it's IRONIC but it works!)-THEN maybe try saying something like "I know this is a long shot, but I was wondering if you'd like to grab a cup of coffee with me sometime?" Or a drink, or whatever. You will know at this point whether or not she is interested!!

Women like to be wooed, and like the build up of excitement. If you rush in and ask her out flat, you will probably be denied (we are there for working out!!!!). Go slow!!

Monday, June 18, 2007, 3:00 PM

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I go to the gym to workout and that is all. It would bother me if I were hit on.

Monday, June 18, 2007, 3:20 PM

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I think there's a HUGE DIFFERENCE between sussing out mutual interest and being hit on. I think the original poster's question was more of the former, than being a sleeze-ball. I think the previous poster nailed it. If you're making eye contact, and saying "hi," then perhaps sally on up to the treadmill or ellipitical machine next her. Comment on the TV program, or something. Introduce yourself. It's hard, but everyone it so afraid of being rejected that we don't make any moves. I wouldn't mind being noticed and spoken to at the gym.... being tossed a lame line and asked out without some mild flirtatious conservation would be off-putting.

Monday, June 18, 2007, 5:02 PM

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the previous poster being 3:00

Monday, June 18, 2007, 5:03 PM

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