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Considering leaving PT due to all the 'political correctness' - unmotivating environment

I thought I'd add to that 'get a piece of this' thread, but then decided to start my own. Feeling like I'm standing at a crossroad, and maybe someone here will support my decision to leave, or, opposite, reassure me to stay.

I joined the site about 3 months ago, and, honestly, have been a daily logger (or multiple-times-a-day logger) since. Fine, I got over all those other groupmates who never post, etc. One thing I can't get over though is this politically correct environment everyone is supporting. Sorry, but it doesn't motivate me AT ALL. I am currently a member in a few groups, all basically working towards 'loosing those last 10 pounds'. Meaning, people don't start there weighting 200 pounds. Then, looking through their profiles, some of the members have been on the PT since like beginning of 2006 or earlier. So what the heck, you've been here for a year and a half, and still can't loose those 10 pounds to go down from 135 to 125?!? And then all that 'kind' commenting of 'congrats on your lunch choices yesterday!' sort of thing! Give me a break! That's how I always eat, you see my log every day, and if I do have a comp office lunch it doesn't mean I'll spread myself over the sweets & cookies table, and save those congrats for someone for whom that's a huge achevement, not me. And anyway, I'd rather have someone asking me why did I do a crappy choice (if ever) and telling me that I'll never loose those silly 10 pounds if I won't stop such kind of fallbacks in my diet. Or tell me that if I finally won't get my ass up and go running I'll stay flabby forever. Otherwise, I can just continue to log in all the crap I'm eating and all my zero workout days, and, who cares, really? So what's the point of being here? There's no motivation, none, zero. I started three months ago with a lot of hope, and now I'm beginning to get indifferent to this site. I honestly can't see a lot of progress happening here, with me myself, or majority of my groups' members (have to admit that the larger people, I've seen, been doing great going down to and then from 200s. So does everything has to stop when you're under 150-140 though?..).

Anyway, I guess I wanted to say that when I first joined, my b/f was laughing and saying that this site is for sort of loosers (and not the weight loosers! LOL) only, who are desperately lazy and dwelling on their 'diets' of burgers and diet soda, and I fought him back on that. Now, I am not sure anymore. Was he correct?...

I'll be happy to stay if someone would reassure me it's worth it.

Also, was that 'jerks only' team ever created?... LOL

Mon. Jul 2, 12:51pm

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Bye bye. People like you come and go and quit all the time. It's your choice.

Monday, July 02, 2007, 12:57 PM

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Quite honestly, I can't see why we would want anyone like you to stay.

1.If people are working towards losing those "last 10 lbs", whether they've been doing it for 10 days or 10 years, you have no right to critisize. If you're so high and mighty, good for you. Look at yourself to critisize before you critisize others. You post everyday, CONGRATU-FREAKIN-LATION. Some people CAN'T post everyday, some people don't feel like doing it everyday. It doesn't make you any better a person.

2. Congratulating each other for good choices is support. Obviously you're some supreme being for whom weight loss was easy, but others struggle with it every day and even that one good choice took mental power. So don't place yourself above anyone. If you want someone to slap your hand for every bad decision you make, go to your mother. We're not here for that. Instead, we're here to offer a congrats when people make good choices and help pick up and dust off people who have made dieting mistakes. No one is perfect, and if anything, your post proves human fallibility with it's own ignorance.

Your bf is right. If more people like you are on this site, then yes, this site does have some "loosers" on it, which by the way, is still spelled "losers". For someone who claims such high authority, your ignorance really shines through.

I can't speak for others, but I know that personally, I don't want you to stay. We don't need negative comments or commentors who will bring down the entire spirit of this site. It's meant for SUPPORT, not for hand-slaps. And no, the progress doesn't stop when people reach under 140-150. It stops when people get to a pont where they'd like to maintain the healthy weight they've acheived. I'm 5'8-5'9...if I was at 140 and tried to lose MORE weight, I'd look like a war victim.

And before you start a schpiel about me being some disgruntled old fat person, I'm 16 and in a "healthy" weight zone. I'd like to lose 10 lbs for aesthetic purposes, but far from need to, and am here to learn healthy food choices. I feel sorry for you and your inablity to be happy for people and need to put other down, obviously to make yourself feel better. I hope one day you find the happiness you probably DONT deserve.

Monday, July 02, 2007, 1:02 PM

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and just so you know its LOSERS and I don't think that people who decide to actually DO something about their weight are LOSERS if you find that you are not getting what you need then leave...but obviously there are people here who do feel like they are getting what they need...also people don't always update their profiles so you can't completely judge how long it took them to lose their weight because you don't know.....but hey if you want to go then go...that's your choice no one can convince you to stay if you don't want to

Monday, July 02, 2007, 1:05 PM

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I am a person over 200 lbs and i just think that she wants a different kind of support system. She wants someone to yell at her if she isnt doing what needs to be done to lose that 10 lbs. You need to find some like minded people like you somehow. Maybe you will find some with this thread. good luck.

Monday, July 02, 2007, 1:13 PM

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Alright, fine, it's losers (single L), I apologize for my misspelling. Whatever.

And I really did not mean to offend anyone with starting this thread, there is no need to be so defensive. Also, I do not think I'm better than others, or that it is easy to loose weight, etc, that was absolutely not the point. I just said that I joined PT in hopes for results and active encouragement (by which I mean constructive criticism more than anything else) of similar-minded goal-oriented people. Isn't there anyone who looked for the same? In all the wide range of groups open here???

Also, I do appreciate ALL your comments. For a change, finally you people REALLY express your honest opinions.

Monday, July 02, 2007, 1:22 PM

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more to 1:22

that's even somewhat encouraging to stay!!... LOL

Monday, July 02, 2007, 1:25 PM

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You mean "lose" and "losers" with one O. not L. Sheesh.

Monday, July 02, 2007, 1:25 PM

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What?!? Because weighing 140-150 is what a lot people "should" weigh for their height! If you think that a large majority of women fall between 5"3-5"7 (give or take) then that is what we should weigh to maintain a healthy weight for ourselves!
You are actually complaining that your group supports you by congratulating you on your food choices? You kidding me? You are on a group titled, "loosing those last 10 pounds"and your are annoyed by it? Where do you get off? I just checked out your posts and your groups' posts and it looks pretty darn positive and motivating to me. I agree with the other gals, obviously this website is not for you. Maybe you should just lose those last 10 on your own and save the rest of us your negativity. Bleh.

Monday, July 02, 2007, 1:30 PM

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SEE YA--you need to find something else that makes you happy and motivates you. There's plenty of other sites to help you out.

just remember...not everyone likes everything.

Monday, July 02, 2007, 1:34 PM

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I can sometimes get annoyed when people are too "rah rah rah" because that isn't my personality. But here's the thing, this is an anonymous forum and there is no way to tell people that want their hands slapped versus people that just want a sense of solidarity in their struggle.

If you go in guns blazing ("Why did you eat that cookie at lunch??? You're never going to lose weight!!") you are going to make some people angry. Some people, such as yourself and probably me too, would say, "Yeah, you're right. I shouldn't have eaten that cookie" and move on, but a lot of people would have hurt feelings. There's just no way to know because it's anonymous and on the internet.

Monday, July 02, 2007, 1:34 PM

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