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I feel fatter now that I've lost weight!

I began my weight loss journey 8 weeks ago at 177 pounds. I have now lost 13 pounds, which is almost halfway to my original goal. However, I am feeling discouraged because I am REALLY conscious of my size right now, much more so than before I started to lose! Before I began losing I was in really deep denial about my weight. I thought I was "normal" and no one told me differently. When I decided to make a change I began looking at myself more realistically and now, even though I have lost 13 pounds and people tell me often that I look thinner, I feel really really fat. It makes me feel ashamed to go anywhere because I feel like a giant. I know the weight is coming off but right now I wish I could hide until it does.

Its really sad because I never had problems with self confidence before. Ignorance is bliss, right? Its just frustrating because I did not begin this change to feel bad about myself - I wanted to feel better about myself! But now that I am thinking about my weight loss goals all day I judge myself so much more than I did when it wasn't a thought at all.

I hope that once I reach my goal my feelings will change. However, I was wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar, and if they had any advice for how to feel better about myself.

Also, my PT name is dream87. Please check out my public log and leave comments if you want!

Mon. Jul 16, 2:36pm

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Your comment made me realize that I haven't seen a discussion thread about the relationship between body image and exercise. Rather than replying to you directly here, I'll start a new thread on that topic. Hope it helps ...

Monday, July 16, 2007, 2:46 PM

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I've lost over 40 lbs and have never used to have body image problems when getting a little intimate with the opposite sex (meaning that despite being 200+ lbs, I didn't insist on lights-off), but now that I'm just a little chubby instead of undeniably obese, the fat kind of...hangs. My belly skin is wrinkled, my arms flap because they're no longer distended with solid fat, and varicose veins formerly hidden by fat are now visible. I think I look disgusting with my clothes off and have been actively avoiding the prospect of dating because of this. Not that I get a lot of offers, but I'm going out of my way to avoid situations where I might meet anyone with potential. I'm totally confident and proud of my new shape with my clothes on - but don't you dare suggest a bathing suit, shorts, nudity or, god forbid, try to touch belly. I just want to shrivel up and disappear.

Monday, July 16, 2007, 3:19 PM

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Me, too. Used to be a size 24 full of confidence. Now a 16, losing confidence.

We IGNORED our bodies and that's how we ended up fat. Now we are hyper-focused because of diet and exercise, and therefore more critical.

I try to remind myself that I am way more harsh on myself than other chubby girls out there, so maybe I need to cut myself a break. I think you need to be consistently mindful and eventually the feelings will improve.

But it does suck and it's really tough! Good luck.

Monday, July 16, 2007, 3:47 PM

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I used to weigh 234, now I weigh 147. Your post really hit me, I didn't realize I felt the same way. What do we do to make it better? I'm not at my goal yet but shouldn't I feel more confident now than 87 lbs ago? My husband can't keep his hands off of me but I feel like a cow. I guess I still think I am huge? How do we fix this?

Monday, July 16, 2007, 5:08 PM

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OP here

I'm glad I'm not the only one experiencing this! 3:47, I think you hit the nail on the head when you said, "We IGNORED our bodies and that's how we ended up fat. Now we are hyper-focused because of diet and exercise, and therefore more critical." I think that is the best way of describing it. Its just sad and frustrating because I should feel happy and proud instead of self conscious and depressed. I am somewhat concerned that this could develop into another problem for me. My first problem was that I ignored my weight and was an unhealthy and unattractive size. Now I worry that I will have a problem never having a good enough body.

You know, I never thought I was one of those people for whom their weight is an emotional problem. I thought it was just a problem of eating too much and not having enough self control. But I think I was wrong. Maybe deep down I was so sure my body could never be good enough that I just didn't even try.

Its sad that as women we have to struggle with our body image so much. It shouldn't be that important! But I feel like how I look is a walking billboard for who I am, even though I know that's not true.

Does anyone have any suggestions for how to overcome this problem of low self-esteem?

Monday, July 16, 2007, 7:11 PM

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