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im so effin fat

im so effin fat i do nothing but nag and bitch at my bf... i feel so insecure...i cry 24/7 and im so depressed....although he says he loves me i have doubts only because i doubt myslef..

Tue. Jul 17, 6:16am

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the only one who can change you is you. start walking every day. you don't have to go very fast or very far in the beginning; just start. the exercise will help your self-esteem (see other thread). stop eating prossess/fried/sugar-laden food and opt for whole foods. it might be a shock at first but you'll get used to it. make gratitude lists. OK, so you're fat? what do you have that someone else lacks? education, a home, a boyfriend who cares? be grateful for the things you do have. go to therapy; if you have no insurance, seek out a free clinic or try going to AA meetings (even if you don't have a drinking problem the program might help with your depression). good luck, if i can do it, you can do it.

Tuesday, July 17, 2007, 7:27 AM

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Before we start a pity thread for the OP or giving advice, how much do you weigh and how tall are you?

I say this because I have a co-worker who is 5'0" - 5'3" and weighs no more than 100-105 pounds, maybe even less. To give you an idea, her body could pass for a pre-teen body. She is very thin. She believes she is fat and it does not help that her husband tells her that also. I wouldn't give her the same advice as the preivous poster because this is definetly something that is all in her head.

So let us know your stats! Lets not assume that everyone on PT is truly overweight.

Tuesday, July 17, 2007, 8:27 AM

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5"4 201lbs

Tuesday, July 17, 2007, 8:46 AM

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Stop eating so much. It is very apparent from your opening that you are under the age of 20, which means that you are dealing with obesity before you even hit your 20's.
Go on a diet, start exercising, stop eating fast food ...... and stop blaming / punishing others for your issue.

Tuesday, July 17, 2007, 10:06 AM

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i'm 30 and i started exactly where you are 4 months ago, same height same weight. i've since lost 33 pounds and am well on my way to having my old body back. i've got confidence, i've got moxie, and i've got a great attitude towards life now. i'm off my depression meds, off my IBS meds and off my reflux/ulcer meds. i hit rock bottom and is sounds like that's where you are right now.

i decided to go back to the gym and count calories - energy in vs. energy out. it's been working great. i commited myself to working out as hard as i could with cardio 6 days a week for an hour and weights 3 of those days as well. i started off walking as fast as i could (3.2 mph) on the treadmill and that was intense for me, but i kept at it- 4 months later i'm training for a marathon... you can do it. you just have to reslove to make the necessary changes other than siting around whining and wallowing in self pity. now get off the sofa and do something!

Tuesday, July 17, 2007, 10:40 AM

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yea, you are effin fat. Put down the cheese fries and get outside immediately!

Tuesday, July 17, 2007, 11:08 AM

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those are nice "encouraging words" isn't this supposed to be a place where wwe are sentsitve to others feelings???

Tuesday, July 17, 2007, 1:58 PM

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Ther are times for supportive consideration of one's situation, but not when said individual complains about a problem which is completly 100% within her control.
If she is so unhappy do something about it, instead of b****ing about it to her boyfriend, and others on a public site.

Tuesday, July 17, 2007, 3:16 PM

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I hate to say it but there are some pretty ruthless people on here. This girl is on here asking for help not to be bashed. She obviously knows she has a problem and is looking for some answers!! Quit putting her down and give her some advice!! That's all she's looking for, as we all are!!!

Thursday, July 26, 2007, 1:01 PM

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No she is not asking for help, she is whinning about something that she has control over. Maybe I should start a thread ...... "I'm too short" wah wah wah, maybe I will get sympathy because it is out of my control.

Thursday, July 26, 2007, 6:33 PM

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