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I hate when skinny people tell my how to lose weight

Went to my parent's house, and got talking with my dad about weight loss. He's one of those guys who has a physical job and a fast metabolism, and never struggles with his weight.

Anyway, he says to me "All you have to do to lose weight is not eat all the food that you cook." Also told me that when he's trying to lose weight, he would just eat a sandwich for a lunch and a sandwich for supper, and that's it.

Didn't want to go into the complexities of weight issues with him, as he simply doesn't understand. But I wish that people like this could be me for a day, and understand all the emotional issues that come with food. And also understand that 2 sandwiches will not fuel your body for a day - It'll go into starvation mode!

Sat. Jul 28, 1:24pm

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Don't forget the emotional issues that come with your own parent being the one to give you unwelcome/invalid advice. If it were an aquaintance or complete stranger, it probably wouldn't be as annoying.
When I had terrible skin in college, I caught my dad looking at me intently with a smile on his face. When I smiled back, he said "You know, if you kept your face clean, it would clear up." He had no idea what I went through, how much I scrubbed at my face every day (the worst thing to do for problem skin, of course) and how hurtful his comment was.
I don't know if you can just smile and say, "Thanks, Dad, you're very helpful," and ignore it from there. But you're right... Just keep doing the very best you can do for yourself!

Saturday, July 28, 2007, 1:46 PM

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I find it best to not "diet" in front of them. Just eat lightly (as if you're not very hungry) and by all means do NOT mention that you are on a diet - somehow that opens you up to all kinds of unasked for comments.

Saturday, July 28, 2007, 2:04 PM

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Yes, that can definetly be annoying. I mean, who knows more about nutrition and exercise than an overwieight person who has tried and tried to lose the weight. Speaking from experience, it's not the knowledge, but the implementation that some of us lack. I try to take these comments as a bit of caring advice, and not the intentions to be rude. Do YOUR thing, stay motivated, and you WILL have success.

Saturday, July 28, 2007, 5:16 PM

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Isn't it amazing when always and forever thin people think that all you have to do is push back from the table sooner! Talk about an oversimplification. I just wish they could see how inappropriate they are and that they don't have a clue. But, since they are thin, they must know everything there is to know about nutrition and eating. Just ask them.

Sunday, July 29, 2007, 10:36 PM

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In defense of thin people

You know, some of us who are thin now, have lost weight. I personally dropped 40lbs (and have a healthy BMI of 22) , and because I know how much it changed my life, I want to share it with others who want to make a difference in theirs.
So when we bring up diet and exercise don't put us down as if we are unaware of what it felt like to be overweight, we are very aware, we just applied ourselves or "implemented" as 5:16 said. You don't want to be critiqued for being overweight, we don't want to personified as "clueless" to your predicament, and sometimes 10:36 it is as simple as puching back from the table sooner

Monday, July 30, 2007, 9:13 AM

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Why do you hate it when skinny people tell you how to lose weight??
Look, they are probably skinny for a reason - their eating and excercise patterns give them that body. You think they can eat the same as you and remain skinny? No, it works the same for everybody.
When they give you suggestions, the worst and self-defeating thing you can do is get bitter at them like you are doing now. Why not, for once, just open your ears and take their advice. Push yourself away from the table. Eat only one sandwich for lunch. Find someone who has the body you want and copy what they eat. You can't go wrong!
And FYI - 2 sandwiches won't put you in starvation mode. As long as each has 600 calories, you will be fine. And its very easy to get 600 calories into a sandwich.

What I hate is when people who weigh more than me see how I eat (I eat very healthy and small portions) and tell me, "You don't need to watch what you eat, you are skinny". That really pisses me off.
First of all, I'm not skinny. I'm average and healthy. Maybe I am skinny copared to them, but they are in fat FAT.
And how the hell do they I got this way? By eating like they do?? Surely NOT.

Monday, July 30, 2007, 10:00 AM

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Well said 10;00

Monday, July 30, 2007, 10:26 AM

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in response to 9:13 I think what the OP is trying to say is when people that have never STRUGGLED with weight try to give you advice. I have friends that are skinny and have ALWAYS been skinny. Never had to watch what they ate or exercise. I always hated eating around them. I usually went home hungry because I didn't want to look like a "pig".

I see what you mean though. If a "thin" person that has lost weight and knows what to do wants to give me advice. I am all for it! Just not someone that has no idea what I have gone through :)

Monday, July 30, 2007, 10:31 AM

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10:31 has it right

This is the OP - and 10:31 got the point, it's not that I have trouble taking advice about losing weight, it's people who never struggle with it and oversimplify it. My husband has a fast metabolism, has a very active job, loves vegetables and doesn't really like sweet stuff. He simply cannot understand most of the eating issues I have, and will admit it. It's taken him 4 years just to understand what I go through when I'm losing weight.

To people who have lost weight successfully, good for you, I'd love to hear your suggestions.

Monday, July 30, 2007, 12:51 PM

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"it works the same for everybody"

No it doesn't. I have friends who can polish off a huge greasy cheeseburger and cheese fries and then happily go shopping for their size 4 jeans. Everyone's body/metabolism is different and I agree that it's very annoying when someone who has always been skinny without working at it tries to give me advice. They have no idea.

I also agree that it's annoying when you've busted your ass to lose weight and someone says "You don't need to watch what you eat!"

Maybe as a society we can just all make a deal to stop commenting on other people's weight/food choices. Unless you've been specifically asked, no one wants your opinion!!

Monday, July 30, 2007, 1:42 PM

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