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hate when people heavier than me tell me that i dont need to lose weight and should go away

i hate this to no end. i come to peer trainer for support, not for criticism. just because my starting weight is not that high in comparison to most people on here doesn't mean that i don't have weight goals, that i don't want to learn to eat healthier and have a healthier lifestyle, and that i don't need support too. it's not only annoying, but downright rude, ignorant, and selfish to say those things. i know it's easy to think "oh i wish she'd shut up, she doesn't need to look weight, i mean look at me!! why is SHE here?" but look at what you're're so wrapped up in yourself that you forgot other people have just as legitimate issues as your own.

i'm sick of justifying myself to all of you out there that do this to me.

Sun. Jul 29, 9:59am

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*i meant loose not look weight

Sunday, July 29, 2007, 10:00 AM

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Do you mean lose, not loose or look?

Sunday, July 29, 2007, 1:10 PM

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LOL, don'tcha just hate it when you're trying to make a point and you goof up....twice! Take 'er easy there OP. Choose to look at the insensitive comments as encouragement that you are not as bad off as some - and find a new group.

Sunday, July 29, 2007, 2:33 PM

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It shouldn't matter how much (or how little) you weigh! Just ignore those people... they probably just don't feel like they can identify with you and they're frustrated because they have a lot further (probably) to go with their weight loss than you do!

Good luck to you.

Sunday, July 29, 2007, 2:43 PM

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Back in my VERY skinny days, I was naturally thin and never did or ate anything healthy. When I expressed a desire to eat healthier or exercise, I definitely got a lot of eye rolling and "shut up, you're so thin." Nobody wanted to hear me explain that I just wanted to be healthier, not try to be thinner.

Health is like knowledge... I don't ever want to get to a point where I say "Okay, I'm done." Right now it's 30 pounds I want to lose, when I get there I hope I keep pushing myself to try new types of exercises, new foods, new adventures. Otherwise I'm just settling for "good enough".

So I agree with the last couple of posters... If it's your group, find a new one that can support you where you are (as I hope you do for the people who are further away from their goals), and just ignore others' insecurities!

Sunday, July 29, 2007, 2:53 PM

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Me and some girls started a group for girls who want to lose weight but weigh 130 lbs or less. I think our group is full now but you could start a similiar group. You just need to be with people who get where you are coming from.

Sunday, July 29, 2007, 5:28 PM

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You are so right, MANY people associate thinness with healthy-ness. They are not equal. Much in the same way that a bit overweight equals unhealthy-ness. Many thin people I know eat SO unhealthily (either starve themselves and/or eat junk food) and get NO exercise.

Sunday, July 29, 2007, 8:09 PM

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Does anyone remember the anorexic lady who was here and complaining about the same thing long ago?

Personally, I think people usually focus on weight too much. Many skinny people don't need to lose weight, but may need to increase cardio strength, build muscle mass, or simply increase over all health.

OP, you might be right, or you might need to refocus your goals. But really, this is an internet forum... you can't expect everyone to accomodate you...

Monday, July 30, 2007, 5:18 PM

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Well, given what she wasn't eating, and how much she was exercising, and her height and her weight, she was anorexic or a physiological miracle. And it wasn't me who made the judgement on her- it was her group members who she was being honest with (for a time).

So no, I'm not some "know-it-all lady" I'm a person who has a memory of events and mentioned it. Sounds like you weren't around then, so you probably aren't able to answer the question I asked, and perhaps should go for a walk or a run cuz you obviously have some pent up anger that needs to be burned off...

Tuesday, July 31, 2007, 9:18 PM

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9:03 I just read through the past few comments and I don't think 5:18 was trying to be a "physican", just making a point.

You need to settle down a little bit and not take things so seriously. You can't come to this site and take it so personal. They don't know you and you don't know us.

Wednesday, August 01, 2007, 1:27 PM

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