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Posters like 9:38 am 7/30 on the Symbols of American Mediocrity thread are so rude. Why would you come to a weight loss site to tell someone to shove food up their you know what? What is wrong with you? Why are people on these threads so rude? I thought this site was helpful, but the more I read these threads the more I think that many people here are just so rude and just out to attack everyone, insult people and be bitchy. I have seen it time and time again since I have been here and it is not helpful in the least to losing weight. Many people are helpful, but as with anything in life, the few that are just plain bitchy ruin it for the rest of us. Sad! :(

Mon. Jul 30, 11:33am

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plea to PT

I agree, I know people are going to jump on this in defense of free speech and censorship, but could there maybe be some sort of monitoring system where people who are excessively or explicitly rude and offensive (I'm not talking about discussing an offensive topic, but speaking in an offensive manner). People could get a warning email for the 1st or 2nd offense and get suspended from the community forum for repeats. Is there even a way for PT to tell who the offenders are in the anonymous forum?

Monday, July 30, 2007, 11:58 AM

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I completely agree that that particular part of the comment was uncalled for. I think it was in response to another earlier rude comment (the "don't let the door hit you..."), but that doesn't make it all right.
That particular thread aside, there do seem to be a couple of people who make it their mission to insert the most offensive/rude/bitter comment possible on every thread. I think it's their way of amusing themselves. After getting in a huge debate on one thread about something incredibly unimportant, I've decided to ignore it... Sad that people need to make themselves feel better by writing things like that. It can only be offensive if I allow myself to be offended.
(And yes, by the way, I know the rude comment on this thread is coming... Oh well.)

Monday, July 30, 2007, 12:01 PM

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"So take your artichoke / spinach dip, chicken wings, or burgers and fries and stick that you know where"
I would hardly call that rude. My response was a rebuttal to people who were shoving the "GOD GIVEN PATRIOTISM" down my throat, with the presumption that EVERYONE wants to eat in American style restaurants if they could only afford it and have available in their own country.
And if you consider that rude, then obviously you have not been on any of the other threads.

Monday, July 30, 2007, 3:08 PM

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I think there are posters on that thread and absolutely on other threads that are far more rude than the 9:38 poster. That one is pretty tame in comparison!

Let's all grow some thick skin. People get easily heated. Yes this is a weightloss forum but I think it is important to be able to ask whatever we like here and censorship does not belong. If something offends you-just like in life, speak up or walk away.

Monday, July 30, 2007, 3:35 PM

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I agree with you OP. I came here for weight loss motivation, help and support.

The most I see is people talking trash on each other.

12:01 you were right. The rude comment came right after yours :(

Monday, July 30, 2007, 3:48 PM

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OP here

So the 9:38 poster comes back and basically says that its not as rude as other threads. Yes I have read many other threads, but my idea is that MANY of them are rude and obnoxious. I agree with what has been said, since these boards are not very helpful in general and are a lot of bitchy, rude comments to others, I find myself reading them very little. I am here to lose weight and gain a healthier lifestyle, not increase my blood pressure by reading people arguing back and forth over stupid things not related to either.

Regarding the other thread, I also don't feel anyone was shoving patriotism down your throat on that thread, they were simply saying to be glad you have options because many countries don't have options like we do in America. I also believe there was a post about "choice" in America to eat what we would like to eat and not eat what we would not like to eat. If people choose to eat spinich dip and chicken wings so be it. That is a freedom we have. It will cost your waistline, but it happens. It does not mean our country is mediocre.

Monday, July 30, 2007, 4:58 PM

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How do you define what's rude?

I think it's ruder to equate patriotism to applebee's than to have someone tell me to shove a chicken wing up my a@@.

Monday, July 30, 2007, 5:13 PM

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I agree that there is way too much hostility and general nastiness on this message board. I was shocked and upset at first. Now I just feel sorry for whomever it is sitting alone in front of their computer lashing out at strangers.

It would be nice if PT could give warnings and even suspend use of the message board to these offenders.

Monday, July 30, 2007, 5:21 PM

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well, not to be rude, but if you're only here for weight loss support and tips, maybe stay out of the forum and stay within your groups/teams and the other information areas on this site. obviously there are enough other members who enjoy the forum, good and bad comments alike, or more would have joined in your plea for change. this site can be beneficial even without visiting the public forum.

Monday, July 30, 2007, 5:49 PM

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My Opinion vs Yours

Everyone is entitled to their opinion, whether they choose to express it or not. That is the point of an open forum, as for it being on a weight loss diet site, well correct me if I am wrong but was not the original thread you are refering to pertaining to eating out, which is much more "on topic" than some of the other threads that appear. I think it is wonderful that PT has such a variety of posters with varying opinions, and the desire to debate is very much a natural trait. If you don't like what someone has written, than you can say so, but be prepared to defend your opinion, because the opponent will not just roll over and go away.
As for rudeness, it is all relative.

Monday, July 30, 2007, 5:55 PM

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