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Why do men think they can say these things to us?

Please tell me if anyone else has gone through this lately... in the past two months TWO yes TWO older men (both kind of like a dad to me) have commented on my weight gain! It would be one thing if they were totally healthy and worked out themselves, but they don't. They could both stand to lose about 30 pounds. So why the hell do they find it okay to make comments about MY weight! Ugh!

But of course I can't help but think they are just saying what everyone else is thinking. Hence, why I'm back on peertrainer.

Tue. Aug 14, 2:12pm

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While there is never any excuse for rudeness. Sometimes people who are older feel entitled to speak whatever is on their minds. I'm always amazed by it, but it happens none-the-less.

Congrats for getting back on PT though, it shows your dedication to taking control of the situation before it gets further out of hand.

Tuesday, August 14, 2007, 2:19 PM

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Funny. Older men always make comments to me. I just give them the finger.

Tuesday, August 14, 2007, 2:22 PM

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good job, 2:22. Maybe next time they will think before speaking.

Tuesday, August 14, 2007, 2:33 PM

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Just comment back on their small p*nis size!

Tuesday, August 14, 2007, 2:52 PM

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ew old man p*nis! i just puked in my mouth a little.

Tuesday, August 14, 2007, 2:54 PM

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I"ve heard they basically look the same old as when young!

Tuesday, August 14, 2007, 2:59 PM

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Just ask them when was the last time they even saw their 'friend', ya'know, between the small size and the stomach.... =P

Tuesday, August 14, 2007, 3:55 PM

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Old men seem to feel they have the right to make whatever comments they want. When my son was a few months old, one asked me if I was still nursing. I should have told him it was none of his business, but I said no (I had infections and was on major antibiotics and pain meds, so switched to formula.) He asked me why not and gave me this look like I was a terrible person. Oy.

Tuesday, August 14, 2007, 4:25 PM

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Ya know, I am getting a bit tired of the gender comments, why don't you just say people say this to me or people do that instead of using their gender. Older women have commented on my weight when I start to gain, as a matter of fact all groups of people do. I wonder if the mindset of calling out people of opposite gender is because they are the people you are trying to impress the most and feel more offended by them.

Tuesday, August 14, 2007, 4:32 PM

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When did this site become a man bashing site. I am a woman and I find it insane how rude most comments towards men are.

First the OP didn't say "OLD MEN" she said older, that could mean anything. Second no one bothered to ask who these men were? Are they family or friends? If so perhaps saying something about the weight gain, especially if you gained it quickly was more out of concern then being rude. I find it is much harder to hear something about ourselves coming from friends or family. Maybe they didn't realize just how much it would hurt you to hear it. If in fact it came from complete strangers, which I can't imagine any man saying something like that unless they were YOUNG and IMMATURE, then you should have just looked at them and said something like why on earth would you say that to a stranger, cursing or showing hurt would only give them fuel. But if you just talk to them they are more often going to stop and think about that.

Tuesday, August 14, 2007, 5:37 PM

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