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Should I be bothered?

Would anyone be bothered if their boyfriend/spouse was going to a "gentleman's club" with his friends for a bachelor party? Am I just being too jealous by caring at all?

Fri. Sep 28, 4:14pm

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i think many guys do the same thing...for some it's probably what they think they're supposed to do. although i'm sure many don't have to try hard to enjoy themselves. from what i hear (from my girlfrineds who dance at these places), it's mostly the friends trying to embarras the soon-to-be-groom than trying to get with any girls themselves. i would think differently if it was just for a typical friday night out, but otherwise i'd be fine with it.

Friday, September 28, 2007, 4:20 PM

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it would not bother me at all we live in nyc and you cant touch the strippers here its a total waste of money nothing will happen. let him have fun with the guys

Friday, September 28, 2007, 4:20 PM

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I'd be jealous too. I think it's natural. We know our men look at other women and that's fine. Women oogle men too. However, my issue is that they are usually places where it is okay and expected for the women there to give the men lapdances, touch them, and rub all over them. That to me is NOT cool. I told my bf that I have no problem with him going to places like that with friends (it's not really his thing though) but if he goes and a woman touches him, or he touches her . . .he should know that that means it's okay for me to go somewhere and have a guy rub his crotch all over me too. hehe. That's not my bag either but I know the thought of another guy going anywhere near me wigs him out so much that even if he was seriously tempted to go along with the guys and let some stripper grind herself all over him, I know he's not going to. I trust him completely and he's never even been to a strip club but this came up in conversation once about a friend's bachelor party so I was honest about my feelings.

My attitude is look all you want-completely natural. But touching is off limits!!!
If you trust your man, it won't be a problem, but it is natural to be a little jealous I think. Women are territorial!

Friday, September 28, 2007, 4:23 PM

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I live in NYC too and run into strippers at my local pizza joint (it's next door to their club) ... apparently it depends on the club and how strictly they follow the rules in the Champagne Room (remember, 4 girls were arrested for prostitution at Scores a few months ago, supposedly a "decent" place as far as these things go). If your husband's friends aren't the types to blow $300-$1000 for a VIP room, there isn't even a risk of anything more questionable than a lapdance happening.

Friday, September 28, 2007, 4:29 PM

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what area do you live?

Friday, September 28, 2007, 4:30 PM

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i got a serious chuckle out of reading the following 2 sentence fragments..."have a guy rub his crotch all over me too. hehe. That's not my bag either..." thanks for the laugh!!

i wouldn't care. it's not like flirting with any random girl in a bar. the girls at these places see everything and have no interest with the guys other than money. if my dude flirted with some girl in a bar, though, we'd have it out!!

Friday, September 28, 2007, 4:33 PM

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OP, don't be bothered. If your guy isn't the type who is out carousing (without you) and spending money at strip clubs, then you have nothing to worry about. But from your post, it doesn't sound like he is a regular.

They are just women there to make money - they pose no threat to you.

Friday, September 28, 2007, 4:47 PM

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Strippers are amazingly talented at one thing- separating guys from their cash. And just like the rest of it, they'd prefer to do as little as possible to get that money.

Figure there's pretty much no chance of anything more happening than a pair of silicone-enhanced boobs getting wrapped around his face a couple times.

By the way, you can easily check to see if this has happened as stripper perfume has a very distinct baby-powderesque smell that won't come off without a shower...

Friday, September 28, 2007, 5:01 PM

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yea ai would be totally mad. Don't let him go. Heehee. I know, I'm mean, but hey, its been working for me :) And me and my man are close as ever.

Friday, September 28, 2007, 5:53 PM

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I wouldn't worry about it. It sounds like he is a faithful guy and hasn't done anything in the past to make you question whether he'll stay faithful even if he is looking at naked women! Most places are "no touch" unless he's getting a lap dance which I doubt he will as he is not the bachelor.
My husband has gone to strip clubs in the past and I'm fine with it mostly because we have also gone together. They aren't that bad honestly. Maybe you two could go together sometime to make you more comofortable if this situation comes up in the future? Best of luck and let him have a good time with the boys!

Friday, September 28, 2007, 6:00 PM

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