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I can't stop eating. I keep coming and going on PT. I have a lot of weight to lose and I am obsessed with food. Food makes me happy, feel good, and is my horrible obsession anymore. I can't wait to eat candy, cookies, anything sweet, nothing heatlhy at all, but anything fast food, etc... I see all the motivating reasons that I should lose weight, but I seem to "forget" those when I am shoving it in my face and eat until I am stuffed and content. If I can, I then take a nap. I am depressed, I eat. I am happy, I eat. Food=comfort. Food=fun. I wish I was one of those people who lost weight when depressed because I would be really thin. I was divorced two years ago and just feel like dating is a lost cause. I am not attractive anymore to myself, so I cannot possibly be attractive to anyone else. I crave so much for someone to hang out with, love me, be intimate with, and see some sort of future with. The kinds of guys that look my way seem to be guys I am just frustrated with because they are nothing I am looking for. It's a vicious cycle, I then get depressed and eat. I am so frustrated. I am an educated, good person. Why can't I get over this and how do you forget about food? What can I do? I can't seem to find a group on PT that works to help me change either. I am very disturbed.

Mon. Oct 8, 7:27pm

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get a hold of yourself.

Monday, October 08, 2007, 9:56 PM

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Overeaters Anonymous.
A psychotherapist.
A good antidepressant.

Monday, October 08, 2007, 10:03 PM

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hope this helps

I was once in that cycle. planned my binges and NOTHING could stop me once I had all my favorite things to eat. I thought I loved it. I thought it was so much fun - I mean it was a love/hate thing/ i HATED that I did it, but at the time I loved doing it.... because I had SO much weight to lose - I always thought, whats one more time of fun! - it was never one last time. but I found out after losing a lot of weight that the feeling I have now.. being healthy, fitting in clothes, not dreading outings, etc. is like a new lease on life - feels MUCH better than the isolated binges I once had. I cant even imagine doing that again (I did it for a LONG time...) I was like you.. I separated frm my hubby, and stayed in the house and only ate. NOw my life is different and I made the choice to change. you can too... it may seem a long way away.... but if you start now and take small steps it will add up. Here's a plan for you:
1. buy Beck's Diet solution book - cognitive therapy steps to change your thinking and do EVERYTHING the book says.
2. design a diet that you can LIVE with. I mean not a deprivation diet. I mean - real meals that taste good - but have a clear end. they will make you feel good and satisfied. make it flexible for wherever you go. you can stick to a portion control diet anywhere. dont be obsessed about calories, etc. . just do portion control now. even if its mcdonalds - eat only a hamburger, small fries or a side salad. just do portion control. once you get into a rythym you will feel good and want to make healthier choices but dont worry about that now. first get into a routin of 3 regular meals and 3 healthy or low cal snacks (snack bags, fruit, cereal bars etc) Stick to the plan. if you really want something remember that you can have it at your next meal. there is always a next meal.
3. start to move. just alittle and keep track of it. even if its just in front of your tv, walking in place or with a board stepping in place for 15 minutes. just start. then walk oustide a little. it will make you feel good. just start slow.
4. get into a good PT group. log EVERY day. EVERY bite. seek support - there are tons of people that can help - and be helped by you! your progress will motivate them as well! make goals and be accountable for them.

you might say, this will take so long. once you start to feel better, it gives you hte mtivation to move on... seeing the scale go down and clothes fitting looser is a total miotivator.

just remember that you CAN do it. its your choice. but you have to start - and stick to it. - starting is the hardest part. make a commitment to yourself that you will do this.

good luck!!!!!! I know you can.

Tuesday, October 09, 2007, 4:11 AM

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4:11 AM!!! you are lovely and this is what the best of community brings. Your suggestions are great.

OP, first of all you did such a great thing. You wrote the truth of your life. You are in a tough place but you are SEEING it and FEELING it and this is exactly where you start. SO you have the first step....and in many ways it is one of the hardest. You have to figure out where you are before you decide where you want to go.

Sometimes it takes just hanging around with people who are living a different existance to get your bearings. You are doing that by coming here and starting. It's all about immersion in other possibilities. At some point you will "get the faith" that you CAN change.

I have another book that has helped me too...Martha Beck's 4 Day Win. She's another PhD psychologist who works with people around creating sustainable habits. It's all about baby steps. So I'd recommend an afternoon at your favorite bookstore looking at both of these books and deciding to read one. I'd also recommend hanging out here and telling the truth of your life.

You HAVE started the journey!

Tuesday, October 09, 2007, 10:45 AM

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4:11 AM

That was incredible. You've open my eyes to some of the things i fight with. I am tired of counting calories, counting points, counting carbs, counting fat, counting sodium. I'M TIRED OF WEIGHING MY FOOD! And that's why i don't stick to anything.

I would love to learn more from you because I believe you are truly here to help us out. Would you be willing to share your name and teams you are in?

Tuesday, October 09, 2007, 10:53 AM

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4:11 here

I am SO glad I could help! I also could never do it if I had to weigh mesure or calorie count - forget it!!! naturally as you go along you want to put better things in your body but its a progression... and I will always eat my favorite stuff - If you start a group, write the name here and I will join (I promise) and we can learn from each other!

I DID learn something from OP - I learned that I don't want to get back there again.... I have been trying to decide what to do with the big clothes. but I am remembering how painful it was to be there and so I will do what I have to to never go back. I am donating the BIG clothes!!!!!

Tuesday, October 09, 2007, 11:45 AM

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to OP and 4:ll You have both brightened my day immeasurably! Thank you. OP sounds sooooo much like me. When I started PT I was just looking for a miracle (sorry I can't spell) Ofcourse I didn't find one, but I did find enough encouragement to start looking for something that would work for me.
What I found was Intuitive eating. It is similar to the Beck info as far as I can tell, but it's the book I could get from the library easiest. (More info on the Intuitive Eating thread)
But the point for you to cling on to is this, there is something out there to help you and there are a lot of people here who want to help encourage you. Something I got from the Inspirational thoughts thread was "Your not beaten until you say you are" and you definately ARE NOT.
Will keep looking for you and look forward to hearing about your progress.

Tuesday, October 09, 2007, 12:01 PM

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OP, it sounds to me as if you are lonely and isolated. As if what food is taking the place of is other people -- family, friends, boyfriend. Aside from all diet advice, if I were you I would work on replacing food with people. For comfort, you should turn to a friend. To share happiness, you should turn to a friend. If you don't have those kind of relationships, work on making them!

Tuesday, October 09, 2007, 12:01 PM

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4:11--i'm game to start a new group. any good group names you can think of?

Tuesday, October 09, 2007, 12:08 PM

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12:01 here, Can I join the group too? ( PS tell me how if this gets going)

Tuesday, October 09, 2007, 12:12 PM

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