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What age should kids start shaving their legs? My daughter is 8, almost 9 and she says the kids make fun of her for having hairy legs. She does have thick hair but it is blonde and hardly noticeable. I just think 8 or 9 even is too young. Please let me know if you agree or disagree. Btw, her dad (ex-husband) thinks I should just let her do it.

Sun. Oct 21, 6:30pm

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I'm currently 17 and went through the same issue...only my hair is black..and very I went to catholic skirts were unavoidable.

Please, please, PLEASE don't put your child through the same thing I went through (I wasn't allowed until I was 13...the last year of catholic school). If it really is so light and unnoticable, suggest that she waxes and even make it a "mother daughter" type thing and suggest that she only does up to and including the knee (no thigh),

Also, because I know this is usually a major issue with parents regarding shaving, make it clear (in a non lecturing way) that this doesn't mean she gets to wear shorter skirts lol

Then, let her go wax every so often. If she finds it too painful, try Nair or Veet...much easier and you dont have to wait as long.

As for shaving, tell her that it WILL probably come back thicker and prickly, and if she doesn't believe you show her this post and tell her I'm 17 and I'm not lieing. Nair makes it come back soft and takes a lot longer. So does waxing.

:] Good luck!

Sunday, October 21, 2007, 6:51 PM

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My friend let her older daughter start in 3rd grade (approx 8 yrs old) because she had dark hair on her legs. Now her younger daughter (currently 8) and my 8 yr old both want to shave now. I just said no because the hair isn't noticable. However, if your daughter's is dark and/or thick, you may want to let her. My biggest concern would be cutting herself. What's holding you back?

Sunday, October 21, 2007, 6:54 PM

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my suggestion if she must do it to avoid harassment from other kids is to use veet, it's a dipilatory but it comes with a razor type scraper to scrape the hair off once it's dissolved. no cuts, no more being made fun of.

Sunday, October 21, 2007, 7:01 PM

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OP here
I guess I just don't want her growing up too fast. Also I think she needs to learn to stand up to peer pressure. Kids make fun of eachother for so many different things. Its like if she doesn't have the $130 nike shoes she will be made fun of, luckily I have the money but do I want her to "need" to do everything her friends do? I just don't know if this is something I should take a hard stand on or just let her do it. I have other friends with kids her age and they say "no way".

Sunday, October 21, 2007, 7:47 PM

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6.51 poster back

Ideas: Let her shave, but do say no to other "Mom..can I get my nose pierced?...a second hole? etc, etc"

As for the expensive clothes, do what my friend's parents did (she's VERY rich..but she's grown up and you'd never know by talking to her). When it comes to about August, take her "school shopping", and in moderation, by her some nice school clothes..nice jeans, Abercombie polos, cute tops, a winter jacket, sneakers etc. Then, until next August, she's on her own clothing wise. She'll get to enjoy the fact that her parents can afford her things, without becoming snobby about it and thinking "mommy will always provide". Encourage her to save up her allowance/christmas money if she wants anything in the intermim.

Sunday, October 21, 2007, 8:08 PM

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Linked below is a nearly identical thread with over 60 responses.


Sunday, October 21, 2007, 10:22 PM

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OP - I'm so bummed! I have a 4 year old - to think she may want to start shaving in just a few years really bums me out. I was in 6th grade before it even occurred to me and that only happened when I noticed my best friend had shaved.

It is an interesting question, though, b/c it really makes you think. Even though I think 'no way!' I wonder - is it really a big deal? Just b/c I was in 6th grade before I did it, does that mean she has to wait that long? At least with the clothes, shoes, etc., there is the issue of money, whether you can afford it or not. Just b/c one can afford it doesn't mean there's no reason to say 'no.' I just don't know! I don't want her growing up too fast either - to me it goes along with the question of is it okay for girls to wear thongs?! There's nothing inherently wrong with them (besides being insanely uncomfortable, IMO!), but there's no WAY I'd let me elementary or even middle school child wear them.

And 10:22 - I like this thread better! And there's a big difference between 8 and 11.

Sunday, October 21, 2007, 10:59 PM

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OP here

thank you 10:59, I did actually look at that other thread and I think my situation is much different. I think I would even be okay with her shaving at 10-11 but barely 9 is something else. For now, I have told her that its getting cold and she is going to be wearing pants anyway, so we can talk about the issue again in the spring/summer of next year. She seems to understand and be okay with this. If it continues to be an issue I think I will get her a dipilatory. It seems easier and less risk of hurting herself.

Monday, October 22, 2007, 9:15 AM

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I'm now 21 and haha I didn't do any sort of hair removal until maybe I was 15 or 16? I would go to PE with shorts and had hairy legs and hoped no one noticed. I guess since my mom doesn't shave (she doesn't need to) I didn't ask about or know about hair removal even tho many girls in my middle school class started to shave. I personally think 9 years old is too you. Also, I didn't fit in, didn't have the cool clothes, the cool hairstyle, etc., was definitely made fun of for all sorts of things but in a way I think it was a blessing b/c it's made me more motivated to get some where in my life and have compassion for others. Now I see girls who fit in in middle/high school who are pregnant and many of the others are yes in college but seem more interested in partying and impressing others than their careers.

Monday, October 22, 2007, 11:12 AM

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Girls are in a hurry to grow up. I remember when I was around 9 or 10 or so, I wanted to shave my legs, I wanted to wear a bra, all of that! But for quite awhile, I was too embarassed to ask. And, really didn't need either. Just be happy that your little girl is open enough to come to you, and be sure that you don't make her feel bad about asking. That way, she'll know that she can come to you about other things in the future.

Monday, October 22, 2007, 1:42 PM

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