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Do you believe that most people are inherenty "good"?

Yes or No? Do you believe that the majority of people in this world are good? I'm just very curious as to what everyone else thinks. I, personally, believe that most people are good, but was I just brought up sheltered? If I had to decide if most people where inherently good based on many of the responses to these posts, I'd definitely say "no". Or, do people only feel like they have to be "good" when everyone knows their name? Or is it that many people, when dieting, are grumps? Or, does PT attract a lot of grumps? There could be a lot of variables here.

Good is, obviously, subjective:
Well-meaning, caring, honest, supportive...and anything else you have heard of as good.

So, do I need to wake up to the real world of "not-so-good"...or do the special circumstances of this forum allow for so much nastiness?


Fri. Oct 26, 11:02pm

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I think when people are able to communicate their thoughts and ideas annonymously, the nastiness in them comes out. Perhaps it's too much caffiene, a stressful like, dieting, what have you that makes people come across so nasty and hostile sometimes.

Also, I think people tend to keep things bottled up and being able to express themselves, once again annonymously let's them let out this pent up aggression.

And, some people on these types of boards are trolls or people who have no life and hang out on the boards all day long spewing nastiness and hatefulness.



Friday, October 26, 2007, 11:09 PM

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No, I think the majority of people are all about themselves without thought or consideration for others. Sad but in my experience thats what I have encountered and observed.

Saturday, October 27, 2007, 1:30 AM

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I used to think that people were inherently good....I guess because I am.... but then I've been reading a lot of true crime books like Ann Rule and am amazed at how sick people are... and look throughout history - all the crazy ones.... I now believe its just an indidvidual thing and probably has a lot to do with brain chemistry.

Saturday, October 27, 2007, 7:24 AM

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I definitely think the community section has gotten nastier over the last year or so. I don't know if a few people started being snarky and they were just contagious when people realized they were getting away with it or what. Some of the older threads are genuinely supportive (Pity Party is one I can think of off the top of my head since it resurfaced the other day). I don't have a good solution, unfortunately, other than ignoring them.

Saturday, October 27, 2007, 8:40 AM

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I think that most people 'default' to good so long as there is a means to do so, however when being good begins to require more thoughtfullness/work/patience/etc than folks would like (and we all have a different threshold for that), people quickly change their default to not-so-good and eventually to downright nasty.

Generally speaking people will take the path of least resistance and if that's being a good person then they will be. That's why there are so many sayings to the effect of 'you never know what someone is truly made of til they're tested'.



Saturday, October 27, 2007, 2:20 PM

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8:40 what does your comment have to do with the question? I think as long as anyone and anything is anonymous then people will speak their minds. Some people who regularly speak their minds come off as brash, rude, mean or just nasty. I think it all depends on how the other person takes something. Most people cannot tolerate any kind of criticism, their feelings get hurt. Generally speaking a large majority of people cannot even have a healthy debate without it turning nasty. As we have all seen here on PT. Everybody has their own opinions and ideas on things and a lot can't or won't bend their thinking. The thing to remember is that everyone is entitled to what and how they think, and we all need to respect that even if we don't agree. Isn't that what this nation was built on? Here on PT I think the nastiness comes from people unable to see things from someone else's point of view, most people can't do that. It easy to jump right in and speak your mind in situations like that but it takes a real special person to just say, hmm, let me think of it from that point of view for a bit.

Saturday, October 27, 2007, 5:08 PM

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8:40 Here

5:08, my comment was obviously regarding the previous mentions of nasty Community posters.

Saturday, October 27, 2007, 5:29 PM

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Most people in real life are at least decent.

PeerTrainer follows the communications patterns of web communities. It's not especially nasty; it's typical of most internet interaction sites. When new, such sites usually have a period of largely positive communications. At some point there is a large exponential increase in the number of people using the site, and the communication usually begins at that point to follow the more typical web-community style, including trolls and attacks. However, if there is no increase, the community usually settles into the same stlye.

Studies on web communication patterns are pretty interesting to read.

Sunday, October 28, 2007, 10:32 AM

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I do believe most people are inherently good. I also leave my house unlocked most of the time, so judge me as you will.

As to the nasties on these threads, I generally find them amusing. Many many years ago I watched the first few seasons of Sesame Street and did not understand the role of Oscar the Grouch, or why the characters on the show not only tolerated him but included him. I get it now.

Sunday, October 28, 2007, 9:47 PM

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Interesting question, because I often ask this same questions myself. I think for the most part, those here at PT are filled with goodness, and some just speak their minds honestly...comments given are a reflection of who the posters are and what they are going through in their own lives at the moment. Therefore, if you ask a question...you should be prepared to take to heart the positive and negative comments posted, even if it pushes some buttons you would rather not have pushed. There are always 2 sides of a story, and the truth lies somewhere in between.

Monday, October 29, 2007, 1:24 PM

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