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Getting Your Husband To Lose Weight

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Does anyone have any good suggestions for getting the men to make some changes? do you have to make them for them?


Wed. Nov 7, 8:42pm

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this is coming from a man him self ladie you must cook heathly meals at home and confront him and tell him your worryed about his health and would like him to give this eating right a try reason with him. stop buying chips and other junk forthe house instead buy fruits and other heathly foods

Wednesday, November 07, 2007, 10:51 PM

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When I first started losing weight 10 years ago (I lost about 90 pounds in a year) I made lifestyle changes which meant my family was going to also since I did all of the cooking. Try making small changes that he won't even notice at first, use Turkey Italian sausage in pasta sauces instead of regular, make ground turkey meat loaf, tacos, burgers etc. We never have beef in the house anymore and not one person complains. Use reduced fat sour cream or use cottage cheese to top the potato, use fat free shredded cheese for delicious casadiallas (SP?) don't use butter, sprinkle parm shaker cheese on your veggies, it's good. Drink carbonated flavored water instead of soda. All these little things add up and since he's a man, he WILL lose weight just from these changes.

Thursday, November 08, 2007, 10:33 AM

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maybe in more "traditional houses" this would work but not for me. My husband is not over weight 190 at 6"1. but we shop and cook together. I buy whole wheat, he also buys a loaf ofwhite. I buy reduced fat cheese and sour cream he buys full fat. He started making sweet tea at home, and I beg him to use splenda instead- but he wont. Most nights we cook seperate food, b/c he wont eat any of the healthy things I cook. He does keep chips and candy in the home. He doesnt eat a ton of it- so always gets defensive if I mention anything to him.

His dad dies at an early age from a stroke, but I still cant get him to even take a cholesterol test (he doesnt like needles).
We had a it full out at the doctor's office b/c the doctor wanted to take the test and he wouldnt let it happen. He swears that hisfather ate more fat- pork rinds, etc. But he looks just like his dad did. Lanky arms and legs with a little pot belly.
We have been married for less than I year. We met a little over two years ago and I gained 30lbs right away b/c I was eating with him.
I have taken back control of my body and eating, but what about his being unhealthy?
at what point am I being a "controlling wife" verses a caring one?
PS- I hate to nag!!!!

Thursday, November 08, 2007, 11:22 AM

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I am losing weight myself. I joined weight wathchers 7 weeks ago and have eliminated unhealthy food from the house. I feed my family what I eat. I make low fat and calorie recipies from the weight watchers cookbooks that are truely good. I know this because my husband goes back for seconds and thirds!!!!!! He has told me that he wants to lose weight. He weighs 300 pounds and has low self esteem partly due to his weight. He has asked me to help him and to remove unhealthy choices from the house. I have done that and now he always complains that there's nothing in the house to eat and sneaks fast food and says that he can't lose weight until he joins a gym (which we don't have the money for). Do I just consider him a lost cause?

Thursday, November 08, 2007, 12:19 PM

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In my experience, you can do all you can to enable him to lose weight and get healthy, but it's up to him to make his own effort. My ex was 270lb and 5'7" and *said* he wanted to get in shape. So I cooked healthy for the both of us and suggested walks every day. Whenever it came time to be active, he would have an excuse (he needs new shoes, it's raining out, he doesn't want to walk around here but over there, etc etc). And of course with my healthy meals he went back for third and fourth helpings because it was good for you (that was his reasoning.) I stopped cooking so much, just so he wouldn't have the option! Then after dinner he would say "where's dessert? That wasn't enough food!" Within a few more weeks he was back to eating pizza and wings for dinner and let me cook for myself.

I did everything I could, but in the end it was up to him. I broke up with him about a month after he gave up.

Thursday, November 08, 2007, 1:16 PM

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1:16- was that a husband or boyfriend?

Thursday, November 08, 2007, 2:23 PM

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A boyfriend. We were together two years, and the last six months of the "we'll try together" routine was the last straw. Once I found out that he didn't honestly want to make the effort and it was just me trying, I lost a lot of respect for him.

Thursday, November 08, 2007, 2:27 PM

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The honesty thing to me is the worst. You're better off with out him. My ex-boyfriend would keep lying to me about going to work/ school. If they dont want to be successful you cant make them.

Thursday, November 08, 2007, 2:42 PM

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As soon as I mentioned getting healthy and losing weight, my husband was already a step ahead of me! When we started dating, my husband was 187 lbs. @ 6' tall. I was 177 lbs. @ 5'-6. Now, after 7 years together, he's 160 lbs. and I'm 148 lbs. I could have never done it and made all of these lifestyle changes without him! I always let him know about new things I've read in the health area. We are committed to having a long and healthy life together!

I don't know how to "make" a husband lose weight. I just know you have to be on the same team. Not made to feel bad. Maybe you can sit down and make a choice together. I consider my marriage a team in everything we do, and if one of us really wants to do something, we talk about the pros and cons together. Losing weight and getting healthy were all pros (except for the more expensive grocery bill)!

Good luck to all of you!

Friday, November 09, 2007, 11:48 AM

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I'm with you 11:48. When I decided to make changes, I talked with my husband about what I was going to do. He was the one who initially started looking for healthy recipes (until I caught the cooking bug and began making most of them up), he loves my healthy cooking, he preps veggies for me, helps me plan meals, helps me keep the kitchen and house clean (cause let's face it I use a lot of extra dishes these days since we pack lunch and don't eat out of cartons), he goes out and runs rain or shine (I think he even goes on days the mail man can't make it) and he is always up for anything active, interesting and fun. I can't tell you how much that has helped me accomplish my own goals.

I would never have been able to do this without him and I don't know if he feels the same or not, but I try to do the same for him. I love my healthy lifestyle, but after a hard day It is so tempting to give in to convenience and junk food and laziness, but he keeps me going and I try to keep going for him as well.

But make him want to do this? I can't think of a good way to do that, and I'd feel funny about it if I had to. If we had talked about it and come to an agreement and he reneged on it day after day while I stuck to it, I'd feel horrible. I sincerely wish the best for everyone and their loved ones.

Friday, November 09, 2007, 2:24 PM

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