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"you don't want to lose any MORE weight do you?"

why do people say this????? OK I'vs lost a lot but I am still a size 12 and would like to be an 8 or even a 10 - its not that extreme and people act like I'm becoming anorexic.... !!!

has anyone ever experienced this? is it supposed to be a compliment? doesn't feel like one!

Sat. Dec 1, 3:58pm

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i'm 5'8 and currently a size 10 (loose) down from a size 12. I lost 15 lbs and have been starting at the gym for toning to get down to a 6-8.

My parents are all hyped up! Grr!

Saturday, December 01, 2007, 4:34 PM

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Yup! I've gone from about 170 to 135. Just the past couple months I started really working out again and eating healthy and I just got down to 131. I am so excited and my Dad is thinking something is wrong with me! I'm 5'8" and wear about a size 8. I am eating so healthy and feel great! People just don't get it!

Saturday, December 01, 2007, 6:02 PM

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I get this all the time and I am a size 12/14. It is so annoying.

Saturday, December 01, 2007, 6:16 PM

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I went from about 180 or so to 120, and the venom that came from people about it! Particularly, my mother and female friends. It's mere envy, try to just let it roll off your back.

Saturday, December 01, 2007, 10:29 PM

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How did you lose 60 lb ?

Saturday, December 01, 2007, 10:35 PM

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And how much time ?

Saturday, December 01, 2007, 10:36 PM

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Yes, I went from a size 16 to a10 but I'm 5'3 so I am aiming for a 6 or maybe an 8, and a lot of people keep saying that same thing. I think people are used to seeing me a certain way so watching me drop 55 pounds they already think its enough but I know for me I should lose another 12-15 pounds. I am sure it is startling for some, especially if they haven't seen you in a while.

Saturday, December 01, 2007, 10:39 PM

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pl tell me how did you lose 55 lb and how much time took to get rid of 55 lb/

Saturday, December 01, 2007, 10:42 PM

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i'm 5.5 and weight is 170 lb , want to lose atleast 40 lb.

Saturday, December 01, 2007, 10:43 PM

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I'm the one who lost 55 pounds. How did I do it? The same way any of us who are serious about getting rid of the fat. Portion control, healthier foods, better choices and exercise. I do at least 60 min 5x a week and some strength training to tone up. Anyone can do it, you just need to stick to it and want it bad enough. It took me about a year and I did have some ups but always went down again. I just started taking responsibility for myself and stopped thinking it would magically come off.

Sunday, December 02, 2007, 1:56 AM

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I'm the 10:29 poster

1:56 summed it up.

I ate less, I ate healthier, I worked out most days of the week even if it was something minimal like walking for 30 minutes. It took me close to 13 months to lose it.

I don't quite understand why everyone finds losing weight to be difficult. It's easy if you just focus.

Sunday, December 02, 2007, 8:45 AM

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I get this sometimes, too. I try to take it as a compliment.

Sunday, December 02, 2007, 8:46 AM

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I get it from my boyfriend. He says he like me just the way I am. Well my doctor says I'm obese so he and I don't like me the way I am. I'm 5'7" and I weight 265. The doc says I should be about 165-180 and I agree. My boyfriend says please don't lose any weight, he doesn't know if he'll still find me attractive or want to be romantic if I get smaller. This has me really bugged. How can he say he loves me if he doesn't care about my health and well being. I'll be healthier and happier if I get rid of all this flab. He's only attracted to fat and flabby girls. Maybe I should cut him loose along with the fried foods and sweets. What do you all think?

Sunday, December 02, 2007, 10:02 AM

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I am so glad to read this post! I have just hit 52 pounds gone and people are starting to say this to me, too. But, I still weigh 187 pounds! I want to lose another 30. Maybe it's just a big change to others?

To the pp about the boyfriend - is he heavy? Maybe he worries that you'll look better than him? I don't know, I guess some people like a certain type. Sorry that you'll have to deal with this on your weightloss journey. What you really need is unconditional support!

Sunday, December 02, 2007, 11:34 AM

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The formula for losing weight is not difficult - it's battling all of those social and emotional ties to food that makes sticking with it difficult for a lot of people!

I think some people feel threatened when someone changes the status quo. And being successful at losing weight sometimes reminds people (who need to lose weight) that they have been unsuccessful in that area. And the skinny people just don't want you getting skinnier than them! Ha.

Sunday, December 02, 2007, 3:57 PM

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I understand what you all are saying, and this has happened to me too, (although not recently ha ha), but I have a friend that I wish would look at herself in a mirror and see what she really looks like. She is down to a size 6. She's only 5'4" so that's not too extreme, but her face is getting sooo boney and harsh looking. She's 47 like me and trying to reach her highschool weight. I don't think she looks healthy any more like she did 10 or so lbs ago. She was so pretty. Very feminine looking, with lovely curves. I admit to being very jealous then. But not any more.
But respecting her wishes, I told her once I thought she should consider stopping her weight loss and she said just a little more, so I'm trying to leave her alone about it.
All this for my point. Look in the mirror. What do you see? Don't let the scale rule your weight loss.

Sunday, December 02, 2007, 5:39 PM

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Remember in the Terminator movie how pretty Sara Connor was? Softly rounded without being a bit fat. Just lovely, feminine and sexy. I used to think boy I wish I looked like that. Then in the sequel she had been working out to the extreme and her face was bony and angular. Her bust seemed to disappear and looked like a man's chest. Her waist was too thin and her arms and legs were too muscular. Ok, maybe you guys who are losing weight aren't getting too muscular. But it's possible you're getting too bony and angular in the face. Maybe too thin in the waist.

Sunday, December 02, 2007, 5:46 PM

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well, pp, I guess that's where differences in opnion come in..I think that she looks gorgeous in terminator II... very european chic with the angular face

Sunday, December 02, 2007, 7:03 PM

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Back to the original topic... I went from 264 to 187 in about 6 months. People are now saying things like "don't lose too much'll disappear!" I'm still a size 14, so I definitely won't be disappearing anytime soon. In fact, I want to lose about 25 more lbs.

Monday, December 03, 2007, 5:53 PM

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I just recently got back to my pre-pregnancy weight, and everyone's telling me I look great (which I do!), but I still want to lose another 15 lbs or so. I don't even tell people this because I don't want to hear these comments! When people start telling me I look sickly, I'll be concerned. My husband is the best barometer, he just tell me how hot I am now!

Monday, December 03, 2007, 6:03 PM

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I'm with the above poster. Sara Conner is a wonderful example of what I was talking about. She was much prettier in the first terminator.
Anywho, I agree, don't let others tell you how much to lose or when to stop. Just don't let your scale be the only consideration either. Look at yourself. Where do you look your best? And, I may make some mad here but, if your over 45 don't try and look 20. It makes you look silly. Find a mature roll model that looks fabulous and see what she is doing right and what looks good for her and then give that a try. Has anyone seen Barbara Walters lately? She looks great and she's more than 70. She also doesn't look so skinny that she might blow away. In contrast think of Joan Rivers
Just my opinion and you know what they say about those!

Monday, December 03, 2007, 7:58 PM

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I've gotten the comments as well. I am 5'2" and weigh around 130. I wear a size 6 (sometimes 8 depending on the clothes) but I have 4's in my closet that I will get back into!
I just laugh it off when people say that to me (because I decline the cake in the break room, etc) and tell them "yeah, well,,, you don't see me naked!"

Monday, December 03, 2007, 9:36 PM

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I get this all the time! From my mom, mostly. She's overweight and always has been. I'm not overweight, but I'm in about the middle of my "good" range according to BMI. I don't want to lose much more weight, but a little more would be good. And even if I don't want to lose more, that doesn't mean I can start eating whatever I want again - that's how I gained weight in the first place!

I think it's just that people who are overweight and aren't trying (effectively) to change it just don't understand that maintenance takes work too!

Tuesday, December 04, 2007, 12:21 PM

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I get it all the time from my husband

Wednesday, December 05, 2007, 8:59 PM

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People are Insensitive!

Yes I got this yesterday. Someone stated, "You have lost a tremendous amount of weight". I stated, "I still have 32 more pounds to go". They then started with, "How much do you weight now?" "What size do you want to be."
No, you don't need to lose anymore, you look good. I am in the same boat as you. I am a size 14 and I want to be a size 10. These people never saw me at size 10 before.

Thursday, December 06, 2007, 8:04 AM

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