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OT - Prime Example on Being Careful About what you say

I know this has nothing to do with excersise but I'm so annoyed! I just got out of a meeting with three of my co-workers. On one of my projects we will be doing real estate acquisitions. Apparently my co-worker has a friend who does this for a living. Here is what he said:

"I have a friend who does that. She's really sharp and great at what she does. She's had a lot of success being bi-lingual. Which is great for the area that we will be working. But she doesn't speak EBONICS"

Now considering that I'm Black this was a real slap in the face. I've never had an issue with this person but to say that in front of me makes me wonder what do you say at home ?

Honestly I really don't care what you say at home but this is a prime exampel of being careful about what you say and who you say it in front of. Reminds me of a recent thread about "Dots or Feathers".

To him it was just a joke because obviously he's not talking about me, right ? I'm mean I'm so "articulate" and "well spoken" as they say.

I had to get up and leave that meeting before I said something I would regret. Another day in Corporate America.

Fri. Jan 11, 12:38pm

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sorry, you work and live in America--don't like it, leave. You chose to work for other people, which means you take the good with the bad. Sounds to me like you're an angry person who takes things so personally. Who cares what others say! If it bothers you, then his comment won.

Friday, January 11, 2008, 12:47 PM

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PP - I think it's a little ridiculous to expect ignorant comments just because you "work and live in America".

What does that say about Americans?

(also -- I am not the OP)

Friday, January 11, 2008, 12:49 PM

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How am I an angry person ? Where would you get that idea ? What he said was wrong. FLAT OUT WRONG. To say that at a professional meeting AT WORK is WRONG. I have every right to be offended by that comment.

But again to the go to answer is alway is "Calm down, don't take it personally".

Friday, January 11, 2008, 12:50 PM

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I think you an ignorant, fat, demeaning, arrogant pig ..........

Friday, January 11, 2008, 12:56 PM

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12:49--her specific comment was "another day in corporate america". what is she saying about where she lives and works? she's basically saying all business people, white in particular, are racist. that's pathetic. i'm not taking his side at all--i think he's an ignorant moron, but get real! White people face racist comments, too. EVERYBODY is offended by something. that's the way it works.

Friday, January 11, 2008, 12:58 PM

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12:56 learn how to spell. and you're presuming to know me by thinking i'm fat. isn't that ignorant?

Friday, January 11, 2008, 12:59 PM

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Wow. The difference between this comment and the "dot or feather" question is that it seems like there wasn't any reason to bring up "Ebonics" (!!) at all in the first place. This guy had to have been trying to be insulting, or likes the sound of his own voice 'WAY too much!

At least the "dot or feather" questioner was actually trying to find out relevant information, not trying to offend.

Friday, January 11, 2008, 12:59 PM

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Friday, January 11, 2008, 1:01 PM

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ohhh what's the matter 12:59, didn't you state and I quote ....
"Sounds to me like you're an angry person who takes things so personally. Who cares what others say! If it bothers you, then his comment won".

As for the spelling why don't you take your closed mind and hop on another thread.

Friday, January 11, 2008, 1:02 PM

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OP, I see why you would be offended. Go ahead and be mad for a few minutes.
If this is someone you've never had a problem with before then I would assume he just said something stupid with out realizing it could be offensive to you or anyone else at the table. I know I've said things trying to be funny that I wish I could take back.

Friday, January 11, 2008, 1:02 PM

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