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my bf left me

im depressed ..i started working out to keep myself busy..i lost 6lbs in 3 days but ihavent been eating... i need help my bf left me and im so depressed im having that worthless feeling but i know i can over come it...im 23 yrs old and i think if i lose weight i will feel better about myself.. i dont know where to start i just use the tread mill.. i need help

Wed. Jan 16, 2:07pm

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ask yourself this:

what did he do that was so special, it makes you feel depressed he's gone.

Then, take that feeling, those thoughts of what you loved and find someone with the same qualities. No man is worth one of your tears! Everyone deserves someone who will walk through fire for them, he couldn't do that for you, so find someone who will!

I laugh at the Meatloaf song, 2 out of 3 ain't bad. It's true, but not for me. i want and deserve all 3. when i find them, i return those 3 to that person.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 2:25 PM

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I'm sorry! It sucks to be dumped,but know that you're not worthless. Don't put that much stock into his opinion! I think you've made a great first step with exercising. It's probably one of the best things you can do to feel better, both physically and mentally - that and having a mini-exorcism of his stuff and burning all his pictures ;)

Taking care of yourself will help you feel better, just take it one day at a time. And as someone who has experience with breakup weight loss - don't feel bad if the number on the scale goes back up once you start eating normally and are hydrated.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 2:26 PM

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Oh gosh... I want to tell you that I know EXACTLY how you feel.... but those words won't make any sense to you right now. You will get through this. And it will suck, but soon the dust will settle and things will get brighter...

I recommend going to get the book "It's called a break-up because it's broken" It's not only hilarious but it reallllllllly helped me feel better about everything when the same thing happened to me when my fiance left me a few months ago. AND, I am happy to say i lived through it, as miserable as it was.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 2:30 PM

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don't have words of wisdom

I don't really have any words of wisdom for the situation. It sucks it hurts thats how things go sometimes. Just know that by taking the step of working out is a great start to healing your psyche. I know when I'm having one of those crappy days, like this week, I tend to listen to some harder music when I work out. It helps get my blood pumping and I feel like I'm working at resolving some mental issues that I'm battling due to the situation. Oh, yeah, sorry, my situation is with my best friend. She isn't content with some of my thoughts and instead of letting me take the time I need she has decided to make me out to be a bad person because I have a quiting point instead of endlessly forgiving ppl and becoming a doormat. Good Luck to you. There are going to be some hard times ahead, but we are here and if ya need to vent, feel free to vent on this thread. I may not have words of wisdom, but I'll listen. Take it easy and keep up on the working out. Oh yeah, ps, you still need to eat.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 4:54 PM

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Have some ME Time

Now is time for you so enjoy that and learn about all the good and bad that you have been through..do not do the rebound thing discover yourself first so that in times like this you will be stonger with who you are..Good luck

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 5:16 PM

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4:54-- I agree with you on the friends part. one of my resolutions this year is to rid myself of the negative people in my life. you can't please everyone and when it becomes too much time and energy to constantly please one person without that favor being returned, it's not a friendship.

good luck to you!

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 5:21 PM

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4:54 here

Yeah, I did that when I left for college. But people come into our lives for a reason, and I guess my friend just hadn't met that reason yet. Who knows. All I know is life is life and as long as I do what I know is best for me and that doesn't hurt others than I'm good. The whole ramming my head into the fish bowl over and over is old so I'm gonna move on. Thanks for the comment.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 7:19 PM

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when I was your age it happened to me too and now I look back on it and see...


he did me a favor.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 7:33 PM

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What a refreshing thought, "he did me a favor."
OP, I can tell you that I know how you feel, and it does super super suck big time. Thank you for reaching out and getting our positive reassurances. Sometimes that's the part of the relationship you can miss most, having someone who will listen to you and care about how you feel, and try something (even if it's silly) to make it better.
Lean on your positive friends, go you on the workouts, and eat, even if it's soup and crackers. Eat comforting, light foods and get massages. Take long baths. Let yourself cry, but not at work or school. The pain will lessen, I promise. Good for you for moving forward, even if it feels like you're pinned right now.
Sending you warm thoughts and best best wishes!

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 8:04 PM

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I know how it feels but remember we are all responsible for our own happiness. Our happiness cannot be determined by a person in our lives.

friendships including intimate friendships are about accepting each other for what we are, not trying to change someone or visa versa.

I think you should let him go and focus on yourself, You need "me time " Do things you want to do. Go out meet new people but leave dating for a while and focus on you. It will make you a stronger person and more independent

Thursday, January 17, 2008, 9:29 AM

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im the original poster thank for the great advice . I still feel like crap i call him text him and he does not even return call i ask him if he loved me how can he do this. But after reading ur posts maybe i deserve better i need someone whos gonna love me as much as i love them letting my family and friends know we are broken up is the hardest part. I cry like crazy it hurts so bad everything i have and do reminds me of him. I just need to let go but i cant just stop loving him in a day like he did. Anyways i guess each day i cry less so thats a start. Im still jogging and lost 2 more lbs i just dont know wat more a man can ask for i was good not like most girls my age . Im faithful . I just go to work n school and spent time with him im the wife material so i tried to be the best i can for him and this is wat i got in return. Well i guess tomorrow is a new day it will be the first for me not to contact him in any way. Thanks i can use more advice and coping ways. And work out tips u guys are awesome. U dont know how much this means to me. Thank u

Thursday, January 17, 2008, 5:59 PM

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OP its difficult and you'll figure it out eventually but the texting, and calling is only robbing you of your energy and giving him the power. Every text and call that doesn't get answered makes you anxious and puts you further in a spiral. Believe me you will get over it. My story was quite complicated but i was in your position about 6 years ago. We broke up MANY times and finally we hurt each other so badly that I was relived that it was over.

PLUS SIX WEEKS LATER I MET MY NOW HUSBAND.

He's not worth ( I wish I could make you believe that). But it will come to you in time. But as they say "Don't waste the pretty". Good luck.

Oh and during my break up I lost 17 pounds!! I looked great! And when he did see me again he was in shock. SWEET!

Thursday, January 17, 2008, 6:52 PM

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op here i find myself checkini this thread every 5 mins to keep me focused i come here to get the pick me up i need. Today is day 1 im not going to call him its so hard everything i have reminds me of him i think today ill sleep and just work . Maybe work out idk i dont want to be in this hole forever i just need help boring and exercise n diet tips. Its like i need to come log on here. Thank u so much.

Friday, January 18, 2008, 11:03 AM

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the best revenge is sexy! Instead of becoming obsessed with WHY he left you, become obsessed with making him REGRET he left you. He's not worth one of your tears! Not a single one. Take that feeling of "pity me" and "why me" and turn it into "i'm going to look DAMN HOT and you're going to regret leaving me!"

Not only will you feel better about yourself and done something for you, your social and sex life will be great! And he'll see what he missed out on.

I'm here to help if you need it sweety!

Friday, January 18, 2008, 11:07 AM

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Hiya, how about everytime you want to call him go for a walk or pick something to clean? I know one of the things I did in college to help was I visited my friends or would go work my frustration out in the gym. Or, read some poetry, anything to keep your mind off the situation.

Friday, January 18, 2008, 11:08 AM

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11;08 again

I won't be back on until later this evening, I work midnights, and have to sleep. I'll make sure to check this thread out later when I get up though if ya need anymore advice.

Friday, January 18, 2008, 11:10 AM

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I know it hurts. I have been there. But dont let it get you down. It just wasnt meant to be. He wasnt great enough to realize how great you are. It wa just God getting him out of the way so that you can do what your meant to do. Now look forward to all the amazing things that you can do with your life. when you are on the top of the world and not even looking for a guy- thats when you'll meet him. Nothing is more attractive than a successful confident woman who loves herself. So become that person. love yourself. Create some development goals and strive to reach them.
Take some time with family and girlfriends and dont talk about the loser- focus on them and new things you can do with them ;)


Friday, January 18, 2008, 11:10 AM

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wow op here i just posted this super long heart pouring post and it didnt go thru im using internet on my phone but sometimes my connection is bad i will re post that late tonight just to give u guys quick update i have not called him and have no intentions to. But i did cry myself to sleep and woke up crying. Its hard but after reading this i need to finally get up out of my bed and go walk or do something. I work tonight at 7p pacific time so ill keep u guys posted. I will re write my long post again later please keep them coming i appreciate it so much.

Friday, January 18, 2008, 6:16 PM

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OP - hang in there. Please DO NOT text or call him. You want to avoid 'crazy, ex' behavior! It's a turn off and he's not worth it - NO guy is. Even if he responded to you he'd never give you an answer that makes you feel better.

You will feel better one of these days. And now's the time you can focus on you. Part of being 'wife material' for a guy who is worth it - is being someone who is interesting to their partner - i.e., you have your own interests, hobbies, friends, ect. outside of him (i.e., he isn't your whole world and you satisfy his every need.)



Friday, January 18, 2008, 6:51 PM

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op here i am gettin ready to go to work i guess im getting by i will post a long post later have u guys ever seen the movie the break up? The part where she bitches bout the dishes this movie totally describes me i just want to be appreciated maybe he will realize it and it will be too late but wat im scared maybe he will never feel like i was worth holding on too. It hurts that if u love someone i believe that theses no giving up. The revenge thing im not like that i guess i would rather be hurting then to see him hurt. Funny thing is he never treated me bad. Just one day he just dropped me out of his life no explaination watsoevr. So it hurts really bad but i cant keep feelin like this i have that feeling where i feel like i need him to live u know? Well ill vent more later thank u.

Friday, January 18, 2008, 9:13 PM

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So sorry sweetie but guess what - take one day at a time, put one foot in front of the other and slowly, surely you will feel better and also you are YOUNG with your whole life ahead of you - where one door closes another one is getting ready to open...

Friday, January 18, 2008, 11:18 PM

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Been There

Amen.

Music, Friends, WORKING OUT = EMPOWERMENT! Ur doing great if you can even get out of bed to get on the treadmill!

Friday, January 18, 2008, 11:38 PM

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op here im ok just checkn in im at work n when im busy i dnt thnk of it as much ty 4 the response . I will post more later still havnt called him n day 1 is almst ovr thank goodness

Saturday, January 19, 2008, 2:27 AM

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Woo Hoo!!! Keep going. Your showing strength already by not giving in to the urge. Just keep busy. I'm glad you havent called him yet, it shows you are a strong person.

Saturday, January 19, 2008, 2:37 AM

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op here hey guys day 2 so far im ok ive been busy all night which is a good thing its when im at home or driving home is when the tears start coming . Seriously if i would have to experience this again id rather not love again or die whichever comes first. It really hurts more then any physical pain. But im getting by. I just think of him all the freaking time. I think about if he is thinking of me or does he miss me and how he can do this. Why do guys do this? Anyways let me just open up a little more so im 23 living in the oc california i work two jobs now to keep myself busy. Im good dont smoke drink on occassion. Goal oriented hopeless romantic. Loyal trust worthy person. Hard for me to let my guard down i only have friends who i know will be there for me. I live on my owN now. Im the type of person who will always be there for u no matter wat. Im non judgemental. If any of u guys near my area im down to hang out i can always use more good friends. Id like to thank u all for ur support. Mayb exchange e mails im addictd 2 my thread ty all so much on helping me with my break up.

Saturday, January 19, 2008, 5:53 AM

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girl whatever you do don't call him - you will instantly regret it. Your dignity is the most important thing right now. There is nothign to talk about its over so really do not do it - keep your head held HIGH.

Saturday, January 19, 2008, 7:29 PM

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Each hearbreak brings you closer to the one who will rock your world! Hang in there. It will get better. How long did you go out?

Saturday, January 19, 2008, 11:24 PM

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Op, permit me to be a little harsh for a moment. For whatever reason, he doesn't want you. Be who you want to be, be proud of who you are, and don't waste your time on anyone who doesn't appreciate who you are. But accept that different people want different things, and you can't be hurt because doesn't want you. The same way you aren't going to want everyone you'll date, he's decided for one reason or another he doesn't want you. Accept it, don't take it personally, and spend time loving who you are.

After that, find someone you really like. NOT just someone who will or does like you, but make a list of everything you're not going to settle for and what you deserve, and stick to that list. Too often women settle or stay with a loser simply because he cares about them. That's dumb. Find someone you can care about, and don't worry if you're not what he's after. Eventually you'll find someone who thinks you're the greatest thing since sliced bread.

Sunday, January 20, 2008, 12:59 AM

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op poster here... i can handle the harsh comments dont be sorry..actually its what i need to here...its kind of like i know what to do.. i know i need to move on and pick myslef up off the ground and start putting the broken pieces...its just my heart is not ready to let go just yet..but since i have no choice i have to its easier said then done..i know i need to do it its just hard to do it...we were together for 3 and a half years..basically hes all ive ever known aside from other hs bfs...how can i forgot about our future plans in a blink of a eye? its so hard and its hurts...but i know you guys are right..he didnt want me for a reason..he made a decision to leave me...so why am i still holding on?? i ask myself that question every miinute of each day that passes by .."why should i be trying if he has given up" i just need to find myself..i thats why i go here for support..you guys help me get by each day...and im thankful for it...now i let me ask you guys...what do i do with his stuff? its all over my house my car...pictures in my wallet my room...jewelry he gave me that i never take off...what do i do with everything i have of his...put it in a hate box? throw it away...i dont know...but i think i might be able to move on easier if i dont see anything of his that may remind me of him ...most of this stuff is pretty expensive...and if he gave it to me he doesnt deserve to have it back id rather throw it away then give it back to him...besides they were gifts to me.. i have flowers still from when he gave me on my birthday on the 2nd..its been almost what a week and a half since we have been broken up... ugh........just hard i guess ..my self esteem is pretty shot right now...i need to gain it all back..but i dont know where to begin..working out is my start..but fixnig myself emotionally is another story...well thank you guys all for the comments keep them coming...god bless

Sunday, January 20, 2008, 12:38 PM

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If it's his stuff - box it up and tell him to come pick it up in the next week or you're going to donate it (or throw it away or sell it on E-bay!)

Gifts are gifts - no reason to give those back. Box those up, too, and ask your parents to keep them - anyone, really - just so you don't have access to the stuff. When the time comes and you're over him - you can decide if you want to keep the goodies or if you'd rather donate those, sell them on E-bay, etc. whatever.

It will take time. You don't just get over a 3.5 year relationship. And if you were blindsided (or in denial about problems) then you have to get over the shock first. Find yourself - learn who you are - work on you, think about how you could've been/done different, and you'll get there. That's what the 20's are all about. You have your whole life ahead of you!


Sunday, January 20, 2008, 3:13 PM

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Revamp your living space. Take the jewlery he gave you off. Take down and put his pics away. CHANGE YOUR NUMBER AND E-MAIL ADDRESS, and send the new info to your friends and family but do not include him. Erase his info from your phone even if you have it memorized. Write down his faults and the times he's failed you and burn the piece of paper you write them on and make a vow to yourself that you will never tolerate these things in someone. These are important things to do in the healing process.
Don't worry- having been through tough breakups myself I know you might be thinking, " What if he tries to call or email me to get back together?" And the answer is that if you change your info and he does want to reconcile HE WILL FIND A WAY, and you are worth the effort. But having said that let go of that idea, or just try and shove it out of your mind. These things are kind of ritualistic, but they will feel liberating. Hang in there!

Sunday, January 20, 2008, 10:41 PM

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woohoo! what 10:41 said...

Sunday, January 20, 2008, 10:44 PM

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Find another guy. It's the best distraction and remedy. Rebounds work.

Monday, January 21, 2008, 8:34 AM

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boo to 834

Rebounds are not good. They tend to leave you feeling empty and numb. Going out and getting hit on and recieving compliments is great though. It deffinately helps boost the esteem and gets ya feeling better about yourself. Also friends compliments work too. A rebound though, they are only good for one thing and it's not to make yourself feel emotionally better. So get dolled up some time this week or next and go out. Have fun with some friends. Who needs a relationship that isn't going to work? A rebound is something desperate ppl do. You don't sound desperate op, you sound like you need to get back to you. So, that said enjoy yourself. Keep up with the working out. Time will make it better, and I love the saying "chicks before dicks!!" Have fun, you will be ok again.

Monday, January 21, 2008, 9:45 AM

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op here

im stupid... im a emotional wreck...and i know kick me in the ass for what i did....he texts me at 4am..why is he up at 4 am? either he cant sleep or he was out?... i have no idea...the texts read " look i love you" "i havent done anything bad since we last spoke" "but whats done is done" ok so me stupid me..text him im sorry and the i love him... wth i dont even know what im sorry about...i asked him if he was still awake waited for about 10mins and then called him...this was like at 6am...he didnt answer expected right..so i left him a sobby message...soon as i hung up... i realized what a stupid thing i did..i mean after everything i just gave in like that...its like hes holding me on a freakin coat hanger...picking me up whenever he wants too...i just dont know what to do...where do i go from here?.........

Monday, January 21, 2008, 10:48 AM

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pick yourself up by the boot straps and get together with your girlfriends and party! that's what you do. quit feeling sorry for yourself. why waste 1 tear on someone who doesn't want you? and being persistent in calling, texting, etc. is only going to drive him away faster and confirm his feelings that you're needy.



Monday, January 21, 2008, 2:29 PM

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you are getting some sound advice here. these ladies know what they are saying.

don't forget too - it sounds like he kept you up all night while he went off to sleep knowing you still want him. don't play into that ego thing. he will suck you dry.

...and, if you had deleted his number, you wouldn't have seen his name/pic when he called. it really does make it that much easier to quit. don't cyberstalk either. that only prolongs the insanity. stop surfing his facebook and myspace or his friends, delete him...you are moving on...

Monday, January 21, 2008, 2:46 PM

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op here

yea lol at cyberstalk i so check his myspace 2 c if he deletd our pix which he has not i need to stop. Seriously this morning i felt like shit. I picked myself up to do 22 miles on the bike and 3 miles on the elliptical non stop! So i feel good right now. Although i didnt eat anything yet sucks. Im sorry guys i know u guys are telling me to move on i know but it really is easier said than done. I apologize. Im trying my best. Anyways one question is it better to do treadmill or bike when it comes to cardio? Cuz im not feeling up to running any more. But elliptical and biking im ok i just wonder if ill lose weight as much as running or no? Thank u

Monday, January 21, 2008, 3:08 PM

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well, if you still have his number, you could text him saying "Sorry about last night, I was drunk." But then yes, DELETE his number like everyone has said.

The HEALTHIEST thing to ever do after a break up if you don't have kids, is to have NO contact with the person for 3-6 months. Delete him from msn, from facebook, block his numer or change yours (Worth the money!!!), don't go where he used to go, avoid any mutual friends who are going to talk about him, or who will tell you info about him.

As you've said you planned a future with this guy. Sorry honey, he's as a$$hole. May not have always been, may not always be, but right now, he totally is. The longer you maintain contact, the harder it is for you to give up on that fairytale future you'd planned. If you really really think about, you're probably less upset about losing him than you are about losing your fairytale. It's natural, it's normal, but hanging onto it in your current situation is unhealthy.

You need to drop him like a bad habit. If you have a home phone, turn off your cell phone when you go to bed. You can be reached via home phone if it's an emergency. You don't need to get a text at 4am.

So kick yourself in the a$$ cuz you really were stupid. And let it serve as a reminder not to do it again. You're letting him drag you down, and I'd like to think you know you deserve better.

Monday, January 21, 2008, 3:12 PM

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Responding to his text is natural at this point, but a huge no-no, seriously. And his cryptic message that started with "look.." sounds like a weird, reassuring message that comes from some kind of weird guilty conscience. Bottom line, he's avoiding you, right? He reaches out of guilt. The break-up happened. If either of you is going to grow and move on or even possibly have a future together you MUST have separation now. Or you will never get out of this emotionally-dependent phase you're in with him.
A word of advice: once you back off, he WILL reach out. He will call, or text, or ask a friend about you that he knows will tell you he asked. You MUST resist the urge to make more of this than it is: him wondering wtf isn't she calling me anymore?? Don't stroke his ego. Caress yours.
Keep up the great workouts, but eat a banana pre-workout and a PB&J post workout. Otherwise your eating at your lean muscle, and you want to look H-O-T, not scrawny. :)
It will get easier, I promise.
And get off myspace! Stop the madness!
xo

Monday, January 21, 2008, 9:08 PM

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9:08 pm.

i heard about the banana, but not the pb & j. can you help with that? thanks!

Tuesday, January 22, 2008, 9:27 AM

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one of the first posters here... the one who's fiance left...

One of the things I did was whenever I had some free time, I would read the archived Dear Abby columns (on the web)... day after day after day of old Dear Abbys. First of all, they distracted me... second, there were a few in there, like every 20th posting or so, that was from a woman about a man that was bad news. And usually a sentence or two, or sometimes the whole darn thing, related to my situation and the faults about my ex and our situation. I copied and pasted whose into a big word document and would highlight the sentence or abby's response or whatever it was that made me see a connection to my situation. And when I felt really bad, I would read the whole document. It really started to make me feel like I was much better off.

Tuesday, January 22, 2008, 1:13 PM

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this girl must not really want the help

stop wrapping us all into your mess if you are going to call him, text him etc..

Tuesday, January 22, 2008, 2:03 PM

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Boo to 2:03

She had a weak moment. And he iniatated contact. If you dont want to get wrapped up dont open this thread

Tuesday, January 22, 2008, 2:42 PM

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2:03 is somewhat right. why ask for help, then have EVERYONE tell you not to contact him, text him, or answer his calls, then do exactly what everyone just got done telling you not to do. she's not ready to move on and will continue to feel like shit unless she bucks up and realizes he isn't worth it.

Tuesday, January 22, 2008, 2:55 PM

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op here im sorry i know i made a mistake. I do want the help just dont understand how hard it is. If u dont want to offer it anymore then i should find another way to deal with it instead of venting here anymore. I apologize for bringing all of u in my mess i guess its best to just keep it all to myself. Im so sorry... Thank you though.

Tuesday, January 22, 2008, 4:10 PM

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Stand up for yourself, girl! Don't shrink away apologizing to some anonymous people riding you for not getting over it already. It not like you dated for 3 weeks or even 3 months - it was 3 years. It's going to take time. You don't just stop loving someone and you don't just get over being dumped in a week. They can go away - you don't have to.



Tuesday, January 22, 2008, 8:09 PM

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I agree with 8:09!!! Everyone on here has had points of weakness, either in a realtionship, with food, whatever!!! I do agree that you should really limit your communication with him, but sometimes things happen. You were in love with this guy and only about a week ago your whole life changed.
OP - Don't stop posting and stay strong!!! there was a post on here a while ago - I think it was called "how to fix a broken heart" It helped me out. maybe you could check the old threads and get some inspiration from that one as well!!!

Tuesday, January 22, 2008, 10:14 PM

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I agree with 2:03 and 8:55 - she needs to realize HE BROKE UP WITH HER. If he wanted to be with her then he would be so DROP IT. It won't be easy but MOVE ON.

Wednesday, January 23, 2008, 1:03 PM

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Give the girl a break!

The girl is only 23 and I've known grown women who haven taken longer to get over a 3 month relationship than the week you expect this girl to get over her 3 year relationship. Being abruptly dumped adds to the whole drama b/c you've got to get over the shock, too, not just the end of relationship. It's natural to spend some time wondernig - what the hell happened? And wanting answers - even if doesn't help in the end.

I think she is TRYING to get over. Responding to his text and a phone call is but a blip in the process. It's not like she's on here talking about how magical they were, how they're meant to be together if only she could convince him of that, plotting to cross paths with him, etc.

Wednesday, January 23, 2008, 2:11 PM

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Another harsh comment. Get over it. There is a sea of men out there and eventually when your feeling better about yourself and who uyou are is when you will meet one whos right for you. Men are like buses, there is always another one right around the corner. No woman should ever feel like they are settling and should feel like they are appreciated, vice versa. In a way we all actually settle because there is just no real mr or mrs right out there. You take the good and the bad, we all have it, its all a part of us. The key is to figure out if you can accept the person for who and what they are, they are not going to change, especially for someone else. So if you find a fabulous man and he has some annoying flaws or habits you need to weigh the pros and cons, figure out how you really feel about him, whether or not in 10 years (if it becomes serious) you can still put up with the annoying flaws and still see yourself with him. Don't waste your time on someone who doesn't appreciate you or who always puts themselves emotionally first.

Wednesday, January 23, 2008, 2:50 PM

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excellent input 2:50

Wednesday, January 23, 2008, 4:47 PM

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"Don't waste your time on someone who doesn't appreciate you or who always puts themselves emotionally first."

- I never thought about it that way, but you are so right. that is really what the other person is doing, putting themselves emotionally first. I suppose that is why it is so difficult to pinpoint the issue. The reality is they are keeping themselves safe while we feel like we are brought out on a limb and left there to hang. They know we are just as vulnerable, but they save themselves emotionally. No wonder I felt so bankrupt. I was giving out all of this money and not getting an 'emotional' deposit. Thanks!

Wednesday, January 23, 2008, 6:48 PM

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