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my bf left me

im depressed ..i started working out to keep myself busy..i lost 6lbs in 3 days but ihavent been eating... i need help my bf left me and im so depressed im having that worthless feeling but i know i can over come it...im 23 yrs old and i think if i lose weight i will feel better about myself.. i dont know where to start i just use the tread mill.. i need help

Wed. Jan 16, 2:07pm

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ask yourself this:

what did he do that was so special, it makes you feel depressed he's gone.

Then, take that feeling, those thoughts of what you loved and find someone with the same qualities. No man is worth one of your tears! Everyone deserves someone who will walk through fire for them, he couldn't do that for you, so find someone who will!

I laugh at the Meatloaf song, 2 out of 3 ain't bad. It's true, but not for me. i want and deserve all 3. when i find them, i return those 3 to that person.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 2:25 PM

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I'm sorry! It sucks to be dumped,but know that you're not worthless. Don't put that much stock into his opinion! I think you've made a great first step with exercising. It's probably one of the best things you can do to feel better, both physically and mentally - that and having a mini-exorcism of his stuff and burning all his pictures ;)

Taking care of yourself will help you feel better, just take it one day at a time. And as someone who has experience with breakup weight loss - don't feel bad if the number on the scale goes back up once you start eating normally and are hydrated.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 2:26 PM

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Oh gosh... I want to tell you that I know EXACTLY how you feel.... but those words won't make any sense to you right now. You will get through this. And it will suck, but soon the dust will settle and things will get brighter...

I recommend going to get the book "It's called a break-up because it's broken" It's not only hilarious but it reallllllllly helped me feel better about everything when the same thing happened to me when my fiance left me a few months ago. AND, I am happy to say i lived through it, as miserable as it was.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 2:30 PM

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don't have words of wisdom

I don't really have any words of wisdom for the situation. It sucks it hurts thats how things go sometimes. Just know that by taking the step of working out is a great start to healing your psyche. I know when I'm having one of those crappy days, like this week, I tend to listen to some harder music when I work out. It helps get my blood pumping and I feel like I'm working at resolving some mental issues that I'm battling due to the situation. Oh, yeah, sorry, my situation is with my best friend. She isn't content with some of my thoughts and instead of letting me take the time I need she has decided to make me out to be a bad person because I have a quiting point instead of endlessly forgiving ppl and becoming a doormat. Good Luck to you. There are going to be some hard times ahead, but we are here and if ya need to vent, feel free to vent on this thread. I may not have words of wisdom, but I'll listen. Take it easy and keep up on the working out. Oh yeah, ps, you still need to eat.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 4:54 PM

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Have some ME Time

Now is time for you so enjoy that and learn about all the good and bad that you have been through..do not do the rebound thing discover yourself first so that in times like this you will be stonger with who you are..Good luck

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 5:16 PM

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4:54-- I agree with you on the friends part. one of my resolutions this year is to rid myself of the negative people in my life. you can't please everyone and when it becomes too much time and energy to constantly please one person without that favor being returned, it's not a friendship.

good luck to you!

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 5:21 PM

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4:54 here

Yeah, I did that when I left for college. But people come into our lives for a reason, and I guess my friend just hadn't met that reason yet. Who knows. All I know is life is life and as long as I do what I know is best for me and that doesn't hurt others than I'm good. The whole ramming my head into the fish bowl over and over is old so I'm gonna move on. Thanks for the comment.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 7:19 PM

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when I was your age it happened to me too and now I look back on it and see...


he did me a favor.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 7:33 PM

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What a refreshing thought, "he did me a favor."
OP, I can tell you that I know how you feel, and it does super super suck big time. Thank you for reaching out and getting our positive reassurances. Sometimes that's the part of the relationship you can miss most, having someone who will listen to you and care about how you feel, and try something (even if it's silly) to make it better.
Lean on your positive friends, go you on the workouts, and eat, even if it's soup and crackers. Eat comforting, light foods and get massages. Take long baths. Let yourself cry, but not at work or school. The pain will lessen, I promise. Good for you for moving forward, even if it feels like you're pinned right now.
Sending you warm thoughts and best best wishes!

Wednesday, January 16, 2008, 8:04 PM

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I know how it feels but remember we are all responsible for our own happiness. Our happiness cannot be determined by a person in our lives.

friendships including intimate friendships are about accepting each other for what we are, not trying to change someone or visa versa.

I think you should let him go and focus on yourself, You need "me time " Do things you want to do. Go out meet new people but leave dating for a while and focus on you. It will make you a stronger person and more independent

Thursday, January 17, 2008, 9:29 AM

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