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How do you get your 4 year old to stop whining?

Help! It's awful and continuous and it's about everything.

Wed. Mar 5, 9:51am

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put him in the corner till he stops

Wednesday, March 05, 2008, 9:59 AM

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When you find out let me know, lol. My 4 yr old does the same thing, what sometimes works for me is if I just ignore her or tell her I can't understand what she's saying since I don't hear whine, if she wants to talk to me she needs to use her big girl voice. She will switch but we always have to remind her. I think at this age, as far as anyone I've talked to, its pretty much natural.

Wednesday, March 05, 2008, 10:31 AM

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If he or she wants something tell them that they have to "ask like a grownup" and give examples of what you mean. Then consistently turn and ignore the whining, but reward polite requests.

Wednesday, March 05, 2008, 10:32 AM

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10:31 & 10:32 have the right idea. I have 2 kids that are now 10 & 8. I ran a home daycare for 6 years. Consistency is the key. Make them ask you or talk to you in a big kid way. It takes a little time but it will happen. Good luck!

Wednesday, March 05, 2008, 12:34 PM

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I have found mocking and beating to produce positive results... I am j/k

As everyone else has said consistency, consistency, consistency.
Tell them you can't understand them when they whine tell them to count to 5 and try again. If it is a reaction to a "no" then look at what you do when they say no to you. Do you respond the way you would want them to respond to a no? Or do you take their no's worth a grain of salt and make them do things anyways? I too was a day care provider and the best class I ever took was "Teaching kids 'no': The art of practicing what you preach" Basically the instructor told us if a kid says no we have to respect their no like we would want them to respect ours (kids do as they see)... not saying the kid can get away with not having to listen to you, but as they get older they need to feel like their words mean something. Sorry so wordy.

Wednesday, March 05, 2008, 1:20 PM

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tape record them, then play it back and see if they recognize how childish they sound. it worked for my two children.

Wednesday, March 05, 2008, 1:27 PM

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Smack them on the rump. That has always worked for me

Wednesday, March 05, 2008, 1:38 PM

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NEVER give in to whining. I would tell my kids that I would not respond to requests that were whiny. I demonstrated the difference between talking and whining, and reiterated that they would not get what they wanted if they whined. And I stuck to it. If they whined, I would say, "You are whining. Perhaps you'd like to ask that again without the whining." It was amazing how well they responded. The whining wasn't always an indicator of mood; sometimes it was just a bad habit, and they didn't even realize they were doing it. They are now 17 and 20, and are better communicators than most because I always stressed the importance of clear and effective communication.

Wednesday, March 05, 2008, 2:01 PM

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I have 5 two and four year olds daily. I use the saying a 100 times a day "when you speak like big boy/girl I wll be ready to listen" and then I walk away and give the others extra positive time. But I do have to say with my own two children I have taped them and played it back to them, and it was funny to hear them say that isn't me??? Just keep working with it, but let them know they aren't going to get to you, and be sure to point out how great it is when you hear them talk big!!!

Wednesday, March 05, 2008, 2:28 PM

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I do the same thing...say they have to ask in a big girl voice or I'm not listening. Now my daughter will start asking something in a whiney voice, stop in the middle and say "let me start over." Then she'll ask again in a polite voice.

Wednesday, March 05, 2008, 4:34 PM

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