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Is Peelout insensitive?

I often say things and then later think: "that was insensitive of me". Even when I'm trying to be helpful, I sometimes later think I could have used a little more tact. Many of us are in the middle of the Lead, Follow, or Get Out of the Way challenge and I wrote in the challenge that we should be commenting on logs and "kicking some azz" + giving motivation (even the challenge name might have had more tact). I wanted this challenge to be different in that we don't just rub each others shoulder and say "at least you had a diet coke with your 2 big macs and large order of fries". I wanted comments that told it like it is and said "you've got to be kidding me". However, sometimes I wonder if I go to far. I thrive my on negative feedback but thats not true for everyone. Now in this challenge I'm going to stick to giving tough, honest feedback. Thats part of the challenge and was stated up front. What I would like to know is if you think I could use improvement on how I say things. Have you ever read a comment from me to you or someone else and thought maybe I need to tone it down or stop sounding self rightious or use some more tact? I really want tough, honest feedback as a way for me to improve. You don't have to worry about hurting my feelings or making me feel bad or anything like that and obviously don't need to leave your name. Thanks in advance for any negative comments.


Thu. Aug 1, 7:25am

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I have a family member who some would say has no tact, but that's what we all love about her! We know who she is, we accept it, and we appreciate it!

As a fellow (kale loving) Challenge Member, I've yet to read a thing I felt was insensitive. You don't judge behavior, you observe behavior. You point out the VERY COMMON pitfalls and patterns of behavior that keep people stuck where they are. You shine a light on all the little lies we tell ourselves to keep us entrenched in patterns of behavior that got us where we are and keep us from moving forward. And, in my opinion, you've done it all very tactfully.

Sorry, no negative comment from me. I'm going to go eat some kale.

Thursday, August 01, 2013, 9:12 AM

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I have no negative comments.. you speak the truth.. you shoot straight.. you don't sugar coat things.. You remind me of another guy friend that pops his head on PT .He will come back around. You would like Him Peel... His name is Bendage.. He always gave it to me straight..I too thrive and grow on that type of feedback.. it helps me see where i need to work on myself.

I don't see you as insensitive at all. I love the way you are.. the way you care and the way you call people out on crap they know they are doing is wrong anyway, but sometimes having someone say. your doing this because you choose to do it makes a world of difference

.. I have been doing it more in my groups too. telling them just how it is.. and both girls.. new to my groups thanked me for my comments.. people WANT and NEED accountability that's why we are here. so I have been giving it more since meeting You.most people sugarcoat things and say its ok.. you will do better next time.. that type of support will keep them where they are in there journey.

i think you are fine the way you are and I wouldn't change your approach.. I love our team and I love our challenge even the name... Im like the PP.. I think you shine light on things we are doing that could be holding us back.. that's why I asked you if there was anything I can do more or differently to improve. because I know you will always give it to me like it is.. I expect nothing less!

don't you dare think about changing

mmmm.. kale sounds good..


Thursday, August 01, 2013, 12:10 PM

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Hey -- I have known you long enough to say with great honesty... You are just fine... Excuses are what have got most of in the trouble we are in, and on our present journeys to healthier living. I appreciate everything you have ever said to me and your new challenge is amazing-- so many people involved and SO MUCH PROGRESS HAPPENING. pleze stay just the way you are...


Thursday, August 01, 2013, 7:37 PM

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BUT WAIT----- I wish you would eat some vegetables... Especially those brussel sprouts..... and I just read in the paper McDonald's stock has dropped since you started your latest challenge...

Thursday, August 01, 2013, 7:40 PM

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lol.. brussels are amazing.. had some tonight.. yes he needs more ve, but he eats salads.. sooo but wait its not kale.. LOL.. we love you bud.. yes your challenge is kicking butt.. I know I am down 6 pounds with it!


Friday, August 02, 2013, 12:00 AM

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If all it takes is quick kiss on our booboos--- this site would have so many fewer members....

Friday, August 02, 2013, 11:43 AM

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I don't know that you are "insensitive". However, my concern is that for those people that aren't prepared for or aren't able to handle the straight forward, blunt reactions you provide - they might leave the team. However, though on the other hand, if they aren't really serious.. then they don't need to be there anyway.


Friday, August 02, 2013, 6:14 PM

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I understand where your coming from thinking that, but I agree.. PNP needs to stay a straight forward tell you like it is team. people know that I would say pretty much before they join.. I always tell my friends don't ask my opinion if you don't want the truth. I know I have a group that two members just joined.. and I called them both out the same day for something .. they thanked me and said I was just what they needed. I think people want structure just so few give it. I know before PNP I didn't give it as much.. now I encourage and call people out.. so far I haven't ticked anyone off yet...

Peel.. I never read the description for the PNP team.. does it let them know the type of team we are..? will have to read it.. if it doesn't maybe we should let peeps know what to expect from PNP 2013, BUT personally I wouldn't change a thing about that team. love the support.. I also know I cant get by with crap .. people are watching.. like big bro has his eye on me lol


Friday, August 02, 2013, 7:10 PM

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OK guys,,, has anyone really looked at the PROGRESS not PERFECTION page?? We have @ 30 people logging each day.... not many can say that.

We live in a society where everyone gets a participation trophy... We all need a kick in the arzz now and then... and it doesn't hurt as much when it is someone we may never have to see face to face.... Stop worrying and take care of yourself, if you find others along the way you can bond with and support, that is great BUT you are the PRIORITY.....

Friday, August 02, 2013, 11:10 PM

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Grateful for the tough luv peel - we need it and although it's hard to hear when we are not stepping up - there is more success in the last month because of the accountability.


Friday, August 02, 2013, 11:26 PM

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